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Welcome, myboom. I am sorry about your son and hope he decides to seek support for himself. And, I hope that you take care of yourself and your needs. Have you considered AlAnon in your area as a support for you?
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Welcome to SR myboom 
you’ll find a lot of support here, both this forum and our family and friends forums as well
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
you’ll find a lot of support here, both this forum and our family and friends forums as well
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
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Join Date: Dec 2019
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That codependent dynamic is so destructive and insidious. The people who loved me tried for years to help me and talk to me and I slowly sucked them into codependency. I was an expert at lying and making people feel like they were letting me down if they did or said anything to try and get me healthy. I hope you can find some different perspectives and some solutions here on SR. It is a great place.
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: NSW - Australia
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Welcome, myboom.
I've made decision to get added support for myself, as have daughter with major mental illness. She does not believe that she is is ill, or needs meds. It's a head crusher. I could not have made a better decision. This added support has given me Hope. SR has too, as has kept me sober.
Hard to let go, set boundaries, but is only way forward. I see that now. Blind as a bat was I. Always trying to save her. It was not possible.
She is not 'alcoholic', (I am), and guess all I'm trying to say is that support makes an complete world of difference. I hope you go for it in all ways possible. You are not alone.
We are here for you.
I've made decision to get added support for myself, as have daughter with major mental illness. She does not believe that she is is ill, or needs meds. It's a head crusher. I could not have made a better decision. This added support has given me Hope. SR has too, as has kept me sober.
Hard to let go, set boundaries, but is only way forward. I see that now. Blind as a bat was I. Always trying to save her. It was not possible.
She is not 'alcoholic', (I am), and guess all I'm trying to say is that support makes an complete world of difference. I hope you go for it in all ways possible. You are not alone.
We are here for you.
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