Day 6 - feeling down ...
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Day 6 - feeling down ...
I am sooooo tired all the time .. not the kind of tired where a nap will fix it, but shattered and exhausted. I have a lot of work but my brain can’t seem to get into gear. Plus apparently my son has rejected all the suggestions (they weren’t orders so can’t be enforced) of counselling etc. So that depresses me. But my good friend from the US (who doesn’t drink )is going to Zoom me tonight. She has even made an agenda of self care for me ! You can’t get a much better friend than that right ? So I’m lucky and grateful and not going to drink !
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Originally Posted by Icandothis2013 
I am sooooo tired all the time .. not the kind of tired where a nap will fix it, but shattered and exhausted. I have a lot of work but my brain can’t seem to get into gear. Plus apparently my son has rejected all the suggestions (they weren’t orders so can’t be enforced) of counselling etc. So that depresses me. But my good friend from the US (who doesn’t drink )is going to Zoom me tonight. She has even made an agenda of self care for me ! You can’t get a much better friend than that right ? So I’m lucky and grateful and not going to drink !
One thing I found helpful is making lists. You said you have a bunch of work -- maybe you can't do it all, but instead of getting overwhelmed with the thought of it, just tackled a couple small things. Cross them off. Even if that one thing is laundry or grocery shopping. Or clearing your work inbox to "zero." Keep it simple
. Good luck!
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Icandothis, I think your fatigue will improve as days go by. You've been through a lot recently, so try to be gentle with yourself. A warm bath, some herbal tea, a good movie or book might help you to feel better.
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Yes, you have been through a lot and you're also super early in sobriety so that in itself is like recovering from a life-threatening illness. Be gentle and practice self-care.
You don't mention how you know about your son's decisions but if you stop looking at his facebook or talking to him (or about him with other people) you'll feel a lot better. If people are "volunteering" info about him I'd politely say, "It's too painful for me to hear about him right now, could you please stop updating me? Thanks."
Gossip serves no one.
As long as he leaves you alone then what he does is his business and you'll feel much better if you can let go of his day to day stuff and let him get on with it while you focus on your own life.
You don't mention how you know about your son's decisions but if you stop looking at his facebook or talking to him (or about him with other people) you'll feel a lot better. If people are "volunteering" info about him I'd politely say, "It's too painful for me to hear about him right now, could you please stop updating me? Thanks."
Gossip serves no one.
As long as he leaves you alone then what he does is his business and you'll feel much better if you can let go of his day to day stuff and let him get on with it while you focus on your own life.
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Originally Posted by biminiblue
Yes, you have been through a lot and you're also super early in sobriety so that in itself is like recovering from a life-threatening illness. Be gentle and practice self-care.
You don't mention how you know about your son's decisions but if you stop looking at his facebook or talking to him (or about him with other people) you'll feel a lot better. If people are "volunteering" info about him I'd politely say, "It's too painful for me to hear about him right now, could you please stop updating me? Thanks."
Gossip serves no one.
As long as he leaves you alone then what he does is his business and you'll feel much better if you can let go of his day to day stuff and let him get on with it while you focus on your own life.
You don't mention how you know about your son's decisions but if you stop looking at his facebook or talking to him (or about him with other people) you'll feel a lot better. If people are "volunteering" info about him I'd politely say, "It's too painful for me to hear about him right now, could you please stop updating me? Thanks."
Gossip serves no one.
As long as he leaves you alone then what he does is his business and you'll feel much better if you can let go of his day to day stuff and let him get on with it while you focus on your own life.
How do you even know what he is doing, ICDT? You need to cut off all communication. You're probably suffering from PTSD at this point from all the trauma and abuse. You're up one day, down the next.
Time to put yourself first. Keep him out of your life and stay out of his. Self care. Recovery..
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I've mentioned it before but I agree with the no contact - right now your relationship with your son serves you no good ICDT.
The fatigue is common for everyone in early recovery but it will get better - take care of yourself and things will improve
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The fatigue is common for everyone in early recovery but it will get better - take care of yourself and things will improve
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It is good you blocked him. When you feel the desire to "unblock" him you can do something else like getting on this forum and participating. Finding a new book to read. Finding a really good series to watch. Taking a really long walk. What matters is YOU and your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. You can do this!
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