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Old 02-27-2021, 09:51 AM
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Feeling normal on Day 6 apart from the shame

And the embarrassment. Of all the things I've done drunk these last few months. Nothing major but I still feel like the scum of the earth - a real loser - and a million years behind everyone else in life. Basically I'm just venting...
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Old 02-27-2021, 10:20 AM
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We have all felt this. Every single one of us.
I would like to tell you that you are not the things you tell yourself you are.
Vent away. When I get out all the stuff in my head I feel better. I hope you do too!
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Old 02-27-2021, 11:53 AM
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Yes, while it eases over time I still have some regrets and shame for things I've done. And for some of them I will likely never be forgiven, nor should I really.

Having said that, every day you stay sober is another building block in your new/better/sober foundation. And people will notice it as it grows.
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Old 02-27-2021, 01:15 PM
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Yes, me too. But don't get caught up in the shame - it can turn toxic and become debilitating.

You have to forgive yourself for those things. We're human, we made mistakes. We're accepting responsibility for our actions and trying to be better.

That's enough. Look forward to a bright future.
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Old 02-27-2021, 01:49 PM
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Tetrax, feeling the shame is normal. The most important thing is to not let the shame bring you down. Learn from it and move on. Day 6 is great.
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Old 02-27-2021, 03:00 PM
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I do all my drinking alone so I when I sober up after a bender, there are no witnesses to fill me in on what stupid sh*t I was up to. I rarely remember much detail but that's a good thing. I actually don't care anymore about embarrassing myself because I have much worse problems.
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Old 02-27-2021, 03:05 PM
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I do all my drinking alone so I when I sober up after a bender, there are no witnesses to fill me in on what stupid sh*t I was up to. I rarely remember much detail but that's a good thing. I actually don't care anymore about embarrassing myself because I have much worse problems.
I mostly drank alone but it didn't stop me using social media/messaging people. In fact I'm never quite so active/'social' as when under the influence. I become a passive wallflower when dry, as now; already probably no one remembers I exist (which could be viewed as a good thing).

Maybe it's the self-esteem I've got to work on.
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Old 02-27-2021, 07:35 PM
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I mostly drank alone but it didn't stop me using social media/messaging people. In fact I'm never quite so active/'social' as when under the influence. I become a passive wallflower when dry, as now; already probably no one remembers I exist (which could be viewed as a good thing).

Maybe it's the self-esteem I've got to work on.
That's why I disabled my Facebook account. I only used it when I was drunk at 3am. I would send cringe-worthy messages to ex-girlfriends from years ago haha. Also, I keep very few contacts in my phone because I can't trust myself not to send out drunken texts.
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