Needing help, need a push and some encouragement.
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Needing help, need a push and some encouragement.
I really really need to get back on the sober bus, I'm drained, tired, brain fogged and exhausted with not living my life.
I cant seem to get to day 1 or find the motivation for it, I figured if I start posting again then it's at least putting my foot forward for a start..
I cant seem to get to day 1 or find the motivation for it, I figured if I start posting again then it's at least putting my foot forward for a start..
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I'm glad you posted and it shows that you do want to start Day 1. 
You can do it today - just get rid of the alcohol in your house, don't buy anymore and try to relax and take care of yourself. I sure remember feeling exhausted beyond words towards the end of my drinking days. Have faith that you can do this and that you can live the life you choose.
You can do it today - just get rid of the alcohol in your house, don't buy anymore and try to relax and take care of yourself. I sure remember feeling exhausted beyond words towards the end of my drinking days. Have faith that you can do this and that you can live the life you choose.
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Welcome back. Hope you decide to stick around.
All your motivation is going to drinking. That's why you aren't motivated to find sobriety.
I say, quit drinking and let motivation catch up.
Originally Posted by Red78 
I cant seem to get to day 1 or find the motivation for it
I say, quit drinking and let motivation catch up.
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Hi Red,
Yeh I used to feel the same way.
I had to completepy surrender. Throw the towel in. Accept that Iwasn't able to drink safely or moderately. I had to take it one day at a time. I couldn't think about tomorrow or next week or next month. All my focus was on the day I was in. I just had to get through that day without picking up a drink no matter what and getting my head on my pillow sober. Going to AA meetings, listening to AA speakers, staying close to SR, reading and posting on here, reading the stories of recovery, praying, watching alcoholism documentaries, listening to podcasts, reading alcoholism related literature .The Serenity Prayer was huge for me. I said it over and over many times a day.
Once you have a few days, weeks of sobriety and the fog has cleared then i would strongly suggest finding and working a recovery plan.
you can do this
♥️🙏
Yeh I used to feel the same way.
I had to completepy surrender. Throw the towel in. Accept that Iwasn't able to drink safely or moderately. I had to take it one day at a time. I couldn't think about tomorrow or next week or next month. All my focus was on the day I was in. I just had to get through that day without picking up a drink no matter what and getting my head on my pillow sober. Going to AA meetings, listening to AA speakers, staying close to SR, reading and posting on here, reading the stories of recovery, praying, watching alcoholism documentaries, listening to podcasts, reading alcoholism related literature .The Serenity Prayer was huge for me. I said it over and over many times a day.
Once you have a few days, weeks of sobriety and the fog has cleared then i would strongly suggest finding and working a recovery plan.
you can do this
♥️🙏
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Originally Posted by snitch
Hi Red,
Yeh I used to feel the same way.
I had to completepy surrender. Throw the towel in. Accept that Iwasn't able to drink safely or moderately. I had to take it one day at a time. I couldn't think about tomorrow or next week or next month. All my focus was on the day I was in. I just had to get through that day without picking up a drink no matter what and getting my head on my pillow sober. Going to AA meetings, listening to AA speakers, staying close to SR, reading and posting on here, reading the stories of recovery, praying, watching alcoholism documentaries, listening to podcasts, reading alcoholism related literature .The Serenity Prayer was huge for me. I said it over and over many times a day.
Once you have a few days, weeks of sobriety and the fog has cleared then i would strongly suggest finding and working a recovery plan.
you can do this
♥️🙏
Yeh I used to feel the same way.
I had to completepy surrender. Throw the towel in. Accept that Iwasn't able to drink safely or moderately. I had to take it one day at a time. I couldn't think about tomorrow or next week or next month. All my focus was on the day I was in. I just had to get through that day without picking up a drink no matter what and getting my head on my pillow sober. Going to AA meetings, listening to AA speakers, staying close to SR, reading and posting on here, reading the stories of recovery, praying, watching alcoholism documentaries, listening to podcasts, reading alcoholism related literature .The Serenity Prayer was huge for me. I said it over and over many times a day.
Once you have a few days, weeks of sobriety and the fog has cleared then i would strongly suggest finding and working a recovery plan.
you can do this
♥️🙏
I think only looking at th epresent day and not at a week or a month down the track is the best way as it becomes so overwhelming to think about and I start to freak out.
Ps. I miss having sober sleep...
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Welcome RED, it took almost 6 months of reading here on SR and getting myself in the right headspace, before i was even ready to find my day 1. And even then I had some false starts. When i finally did quit, I was ready. I'm only 18 days in, but i have no desire to go back. I hope you find your day 1 soon and post often, sober sleep is amazing
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Welcome back Red.
Posting at SR is a good recovery plan of action. Perhaps think of other behaviours that can support your sobriety. Your worth is so work it
Posting at SR is a good recovery plan of action. Perhaps think of other behaviours that can support your sobriety. Your worth is so work it
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Here are a few recovery programs that could help you along the way:
AA online meetings: https://aa-intergroup.org/oiaa/meetings/
SMART ( they use CBT) https://www.smartrecovery.org/
AVRT https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ined-long.html (AVRT Explained (long))
You could also read this interesting article on how the brain heals itself from addiction: Google The Brain That Heals Itself: Neuroplasticity and Promise for Addiction Treatment.
AA online meetings: https://aa-intergroup.org/oiaa/meetings/
SMART ( they use CBT) https://www.smartrecovery.org/
AVRT https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ined-long.html (AVRT Explained (long))
You could also read this interesting article on how the brain heals itself from addiction: Google The Brain That Heals Itself: Neuroplasticity and Promise for Addiction Treatment.
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Originally Posted by Red78
I think it's time to make today day 1, I'm so over waking up like this..
On day 2 I woke up and my mouth didn’t taste like a sewer.
Day 3 the embarrassing red face had improved dramatically.
It really doesn’t take long for sobriety to have its own momentum.
Join us!
-bora
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Originally Posted by snitch
How are you doing today darling?
In terms of my drinking I can manage a day here or there but not 2 strung together so far. I finally realised, like doh lol, that I'm drinking to stop myself looking at how miserable I truly am in my life even though drinking makes us more miserable.
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