Are you surprised I'm still sober?
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Oakland
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Here's what I'm doing:
1. Reading the blue book with a sponsor. Very slowly.
2. Have a secretary commitment.
3. Go to about 4 meetings a week.
4. Joined the sober softbalsoftball
I feel...bored. I'm 5 months today. I know that this part is a different kind of hard. It's not new. I need to get a freaking hobby. Or 20.
1. Reading the blue book with a sponsor. Very slowly.
2. Have a secretary commitment.
3. Go to about 4 meetings a week.
4. Joined the sober softbalsoftball
I feel...bored. I'm 5 months today. I know that this part is a different kind of hard. It's not new. I need to get a freaking hobby. Or 20.
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Join Date: Oct 2018
Location: Christchurch, NZ
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Originally Posted by Pressmetilihurt 
Here's what I'm doing:
1. Reading the blue book with a sponsor. Very slowly.
2. Have a secretary commitment.
3. Go to about 4 meetings a week.
4. Joined the sober softbalsoftball
I feel...bored. I'm 5 months today. I know that this part is a different kind of hard. It's not new. I need to get a freaking hobby. Or 20.
1. Reading the blue book with a sponsor. Very slowly.
2. Have a secretary commitment.
3. Go to about 4 meetings a week.
4. Joined the sober softbalsoftball
I feel...bored. I'm 5 months today. I know that this part is a different kind of hard. It's not new. I need to get a freaking hobby. Or 20.
I remember saying that to my sponsor, that I was surprised I had stayed sober 5-6 months or thereabouts.
His response "I'm not, the results when someone throws down and takes the steps are quite predictable, the results are just as predictable when we don't"
Keep it up 💪
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Join Date: Nov 2018
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Originally Posted by fishkiller
Not knowing you I cant say but like you I am kinda surprised that I am.
Giving up is NOT an option.
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I'm not surprised, because I know what work you are doing.
as Derringer said: the results when someone throws down and takes the steps are quite predictable, the results are just as predictable when we don't
I'm sure you have heard in meetings "it works if you work it." That goes for any recovery program, really. Not just AA.
I am quite pleased for you!
And you said something quite insightful: I know that this part is a different kind of hard.
That's really an interesting way of putting it. The initial quitting phase is hard, really hard, as we detox and develop some new routines and figure out which way is up and start cleaning up some messes. But later on, when that all starts to settle in, comes the phase of "now what." What do I want to do with my time? What are my interests? What relationships do I need to shed and which ones do I need to start repairing and enhancing? What's my plan for continued recovery? I did a whole lot of questioning at about 6 months. I'd say that's really when my life started to change. I wasn't exactly BORED, more like kind of restless and wanting to get things going. Get that new sober life figured out. I had to gain some serenity and patience at that point. Things don't always happen on the timetable we would like. That's when we really need to get good at acceptance and letting go. It's really kind of a magical time, if you can look at it that way. At least it was for me, once I got past needing to have things all figured out.
as Derringer said: the results when someone throws down and takes the steps are quite predictable, the results are just as predictable when we don't
I'm sure you have heard in meetings "it works if you work it." That goes for any recovery program, really. Not just AA.
I am quite pleased for you!
And you said something quite insightful: I know that this part is a different kind of hard.
That's really an interesting way of putting it. The initial quitting phase is hard, really hard, as we detox and develop some new routines and figure out which way is up and start cleaning up some messes. But later on, when that all starts to settle in, comes the phase of "now what." What do I want to do with my time? What are my interests? What relationships do I need to shed and which ones do I need to start repairing and enhancing? What's my plan for continued recovery? I did a whole lot of questioning at about 6 months. I'd say that's really when my life started to change. I wasn't exactly BORED, more like kind of restless and wanting to get things going. Get that new sober life figured out. I had to gain some serenity and patience at that point. Things don't always happen on the timetable we would like. That's when we really need to get good at acceptance and letting go. It's really kind of a magical time, if you can look at it that way. At least it was for me, once I got past needing to have things all figured out.
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Originally Posted by Pressmetilihurt
Here's what I'm doing:
1. Reading the blue book with a sponsor. Very slowly.
2. Have a secretary commitment.
3. Go to about 4 meetings a week.
4. Joined the sober softbalsoftball
I feel...bored. I'm 5 months today. I know that this part is a different kind of hard. It's not new. I need to get a freaking hobby. Or 20.
1. Reading the blue book with a sponsor. Very slowly.
2. Have a secretary commitment.
3. Go to about 4 meetings a week.
4. Joined the sober softbalsoftball
I feel...bored. I'm 5 months today. I know that this part is a different kind of hard. It's not new. I need to get a freaking hobby. Or 20.
There are lots of options
-Running, walking or hiking (or a combination of the three)
-Painting
-Book Club
-Travel
-Cooking class
-Volunteering
I know you’ll find your niche, and something you enjoy doing!
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