Day 3 awkward relative
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Day 3 awkward relative
A relative has come again for Christmas he is manipulative and controlling. He has stayed at my flat last 2 Christmas’s and is trying to force himself on me.
i have told him I have been very unwell and do not want him staying with me but he won’t take no for an answer so I am expecting conflict.
I will be spending another Christmas on my own. I am still sober and into my 3rd day.
i have told him I have been very unwell and do not want him staying with me but he won’t take no for an answer so I am expecting conflict.
I will be spending another Christmas on my own. I am still sober and into my 3rd day.
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One of the lessons I learned when I had a long period of sobriety is to say no and mean it. If you don't want conflict just don't let him into your house. He won't force his way in. Standnig up for ourselves and having appropriate boundaries in place is crucial for me. You don't have to enter into conflict. A firm no and end of conversation,
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One of the most important lessons I learned in early recovery is that 'No' is a complete sentence. You don't need to apologize for saying 'No' and you certainly don't need to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation. Take care of yourself, your mental health and your sobriety, and the rest will work out.
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