tekink

He quit after being hospitalized with cirrhosis. He had fluid accumulating in his abdomen and legs it was terrifying to see. That was his second time being hospitalized from liver issues due to alcohol. He didn't drink for about 6 years and now he's decided to try his hand at moderation. I asked him how he's doing tonight as he was drinking in my bar he told me he's got this and it's going to be OK. I'm sure we all know how that's going to turn out. He was a 750ml/day isolated drinker when this went down before.

I guess there's nothing I can do but sit back and watch and hope it doesn't destroy my wife.

Finalround

I was trying to find that thread about successful moderation but it must have been removed.

Tekink, you know where this is going. I think you should talk to your wife about it now. If she has a strong relationship with her brother she may get through to him.

I have a brother that continues to binge. To him, it's never a problem and he's always in control. Throwing away 3 careers and countless family, financial and legal problems are never enough to convince him. I certainly can't. I've learned to step away and not let his problems affect my life. I love from a distance. I hope your wife can accept that too.

thomas11

Sorry to hear about your situation. I too have a brother in law who is trying very hard to drink himself to death. We don't know what to do because he doesn't want or think he needs help. So for the time being, we deal with it and keep our distance.

Upstairs

tekink

I hope so to but I don't think it's going to be the case. He's slowly drinking more each day. It's been about three weeks since he swiped my wifes glass on thanksgiving a couple times and drank it on her. Now he's comfortably drinking in front of us. I asked him what's up, he said he's fine. Reminded him the dr's told him he's got to quit for good an he told me it's ok he's got this.

I'm figuring I've said all I need to. It's tempting to show him less's tricks for moderation, He's already doing them but I'm afraid it will do more harm than good.

He almost died from cirrhosis all ready. The dr's were very clear that he's damaged himself for life and any alcohol consumption moving forward caries a large risk of death.

My wife is more worried about her mom in all of this as her dad is in late stage dementia from alcohol abuse and if something happens to her brother it's going to kill her mom. She knows very well what the relapse means.

Looks like I'll be the only sober one at xmas.

Anna

Gosh, I'm so sorry, Tekink! It's really hard to stand by and watch as someone you care about self-destructs. Your brother-in-law knows the consequences of his drinking, so, as you said, there is nothing you can do. Stay strong and support your wife.

Fearlessat50

This is terrible. Sorry to hear. Please keep your distance and stay strong for yourself and your wife.

DontRemember

100% not your problem as long as he's not drinking for free....

Dee74

[QUOTE=Finalround;7081474]I was trying to find that thread about successful moderation but it must have been removed [/QUOTE**

It hasn't if one of these is the one you mean .

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oderation.html (My guide to moderation)

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oderation.html (My guide to moderation)

Easy to say but very hard to keep that line when it's a loved one, man.

I'm hoping against hope your BIL can turn it around tekink, best wishes.

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