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Old 06-10-2018, 12:17 PM
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Need to quit!

Hi

I'm not sure if I am an alcoholic, but I'm sure I have a drink problem. I have drank nearly every day for twenty or so years. During the week maybe 4 beers. The weekend days two maybe three times that.
The drink has ruined my relationship, I've recently moved out of our home.
Last night I got really drunk and done something stupid. I hired a prostitute. I feel such regret and shame. I get so drunk I'm not in control. I do things I always regret.

I need to quit , hopefully I can. I thought joining a forum might help.

Thanks for listening
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Welcome!

I see you are already reading around and posting. Keep doing that and you will learn a huge amount from this forum.
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:10 PM
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:25 PM
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I need to quit, too. But reading these forums helps, it keeps me occupied right now so I cannot and WILL NOT go buy alcohol. Where I live they don’t sell alcohol 2 am - 4 am... I need to keep busy and resist the urge for 12 hours 35 minutes.
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:27 PM
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Good to meet you, oneday.

Talking things over here at SR helped me so much - I knew I never had to feel alone. I'm glad you've taken a hard look at what drinking has done to your life. For me, every time it was in my system I never knew what would happen. Most of the time it led me to do things I would never have done sober. I was reckless, and putting myself in danger. The only way to stay safe was to stop all together.

We're glad you're here.
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:28 PM
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Thanks for the replies. Not had a drink tonight. Threw the beers in the bin.
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Glad you're here and posting. Sound alike alcohol isn't adding much joy to your life, just destruction and despair. Have you stopped?

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Old 06-10-2018, 01:30 PM
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i need to quit, too. But reading these forums helps, it keeps me occupied right now so i cannot and will not go buy alcohol. Where i live they don’t sell alcohol 2 am - 4 am... I need to keep busy and resist the urge for 12 hours 35 minutes.
you can do it!!
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:33 PM
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Glad you're here and posting. Sound alike alcohol isn't adding much joy to your life, just destruction and despair. Have you stopped?

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Stopped today. Was last night I was really drunk. That usually wouldn't stop me having a few beers about now though.

So today is my first day sober.
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:35 PM
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Good to meet you, oneday.

Talking things over here at SR helped me so much - I knew I never had to feel alone. I'm glad you've taken a hard look at what drinking has done to your life. For me, every time it was in my system I never knew what would happen. Most of the time it led me to do things I would never have done sober. I was reckless, and putting myself in danger. The only way to stay safe was to stop all together.

We're glad you're here.
Glad you stopped. It's crazy the things you do drunk. Stuff you wouldn't even dream of sober.
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Old 06-10-2018, 01:46 PM
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Welcome! I hope our support can help you stay sober for good.
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You're showing a desire to quit drinking and realizing you have a problem is a move in the right direction. One day at a time and then wake up tomorrow and keep on keeping on.
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Welcome! This site has been very helpful. You can do this!!
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Old 06-10-2018, 06:53 PM
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I’m currently in the same boat but have not had the strength to take that first day. Good for you. And hopefully I have your courage soon.
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Old 06-10-2018, 09:36 PM
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I’m currently in the same boat but have not had the strength to take that first day. Good for you. And hopefully I have your courage soon.
You can do it. I'm scared I can't too. But I know if I tell myself not to drink when that voice is saying it's ok. Just this once. I'll be ok .
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Old 06-12-2018, 01:19 PM
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Day 3 and no drink .

My anxiety is through the roof. I'm paranoid I caught an std on Saturday night with the escort. Going to get tested .

I think it had to happen before I realised this is not me . I must stop before I end up dead from alcohol like my father.
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Old 06-12-2018, 06:43 PM
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Congrats on day 3. Yeah get the test and get some peace of mind.

if you've never been anxious before, this intense anxiety should lift eventually

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Old 06-13-2018, 12:11 AM
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Congrats on day 3. Yeah get the test and get some peace of mind.

if you've never been anxious before, this intense anxiety should lift eventually

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The reason I drink is to mask the anxiety and depression.
I've started meditation to help instead of turning to booze.

Just this sort of situation with the std scare is the sort of thing that I fear the most. So stupid , I wouldn't do it in a million years sober.

Thanks for the support Dee
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Hi Oneday,

Many congrats on day 3 !
I used alcohol to mask anxiety and depression too. I felt extremely vulnerable when I got going 54 days ago. You can do it if you just think this is the worst at the moment, but is going to get better.

When I was drinking, I was prescribed some Anti-Depressant meds from my Doctor - the trouble is my cycle of drinking cancelled them out (alcohol is a depressant).
Now that I'm not drinking, they are actually working in a really helpful way. Not that I'm suggesting you get meds, but for me they're working for my anxiety.

Hang in there, and try not to worry too much about the recent indiscretion, it's just behaviour related to alcoholism.
All the very best,
Johnnie.
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Old 06-13-2018, 02:07 AM
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Hi Oneday,

Many congrats on day 3 !
I used alcohol to mask anxiety and depression too. I felt extremely vulnerable when I got going 54 days ago. You can do it if you just think this is the worst at the moment, but is going to get better.

When I was drinking, I was prescribed some Anti-Depressant meds from my Doctor - the trouble is my cycle of drinking cancelled them out (alcohol is a depressant).
Now that I'm not drinking, they are actually working in a really helpful way. Not that I'm suggesting you get meds, but for me they're working for my anxiety.

Hang in there, and try not to worry too much about the recent indiscretion, it's just behaviour related to alcoholism.
All the very best,
Johnnie.
Congrats on 54 days. That's great.
Im already on meds for depression and anxiety. They do help, but as you say the drinking makes it worse.

Thanks for your words mate
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