Just refused a family meal to avoid slipping up. First time I've did that :)

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06-02-2018, 10:14 AM

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16YearsDrunk

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Just refused a family meal to avoid slipping up. First time I've did that :)

My brother is in town and they all want to go to a favourite restaurant. I refused to join them.

I explained openly that I am not strong enough to eat out at a place that serves alcohol. I have anxiety about eating around others and always require alcohol to eat my food and feel social. Every time I've been sober in the past and went to a restaurant I always slip up.

So this time I stopped myself from potentially slipping up by refusing to go.

2 weeks tomorrow

06-02-2018, 10:46 AM

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Anna

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I'm sure it's disappointing to miss a family get-together, but you are doing the right thing. It will get easier. Congratulations on 2 weeks of sobriety!

06-02-2018, 01:29 PM

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tekink

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Congratulations! That's a big step. I found after staying in a few times that the whole Fear Of Missing Out thing tended to subside and I actually started enjoying and looking forward to that extra time at home. I spend so much time at work I need some time to enjoy my place.

06-02-2018, 01:34 PM

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Opivotal

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Good looking out, 16YearsDrunk!

Congratulations on 2 weeks.

06-02-2018, 01:42 PM

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Numblady

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Way to go! What a healthy choice for you and your sobriety.

06-02-2018, 02:27 PM

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August252015

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Great decision! One suggestion is to change that word "slip" to "chose" or "choose" - you chose not to drink, you choose not to go places where you might.....ownership of action is so important, IME and IMO.

06-02-2018, 02:55 PM

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Hevyn

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16Years - That was a great move. I should've done that early on - I was filled with resentment & self-pity when I tried to resume my usual activities before I was ready. I was very fragile in the early days - but as I grew confident in my new, sober life everything got easier. Proud of you!