Getting sober in Byron Bay
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Getting sober in Byron Bay
Hi everyone, living in Byron these days, fled the city, the clean country lifestyle is great, good strong fellowship up here, I do AA/NA and just found ACA. ACA is bloody brilliant. I surf or exercise/light house walk when I can. message me if you want to join me.
Rich xx
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I passed through Byron Bay a coupe of years ago. Went to the wednesday night AA steps meeting, if I remember correctly. Really enjoyed it, warm atmosphere, lovely friendly people with great recoveries. I hope I get back there one day.
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Thanks for the warm welcome fellas/ladies ACA Adult children of alcoholics or dysfunctional families... it deals with the specific issue that underlay are addictions, I've learnt/come forward so much in the 3 months I've been going its amazing.
heres their "laundry list we deal with"
The Laundry List – 14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
We became addicted to excitement.
We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
Para-alcoholics are reactors r
heres their "laundry list we deal with"
The Laundry List – 14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
We became addicted to excitement.
We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
Para-alcoholics are reactors r
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Welcome to SR!
I have a dear friend grew up on a farm near Byron and used to be my neighbor in Los Angeles. You probably know her if u surf, her name is Shorty. I’ll come and visit some time this year, I have another good friend that just retired to the Goldie from Sydney.
Glad to hear that you are liking Byron and that they have a good support system there.
I have a dear friend grew up on a farm near Byron and used to be my neighbor in Los Angeles. You probably know her if u surf, her name is Shorty. I’ll come and visit some time this year, I have another good friend that just retired to the Goldie from Sydney.
Glad to hear that you are liking Byron and that they have a good support system there.
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