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Old 11-24-2017, 10:36 AM
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I am wanting to find as much as I can about others' experiences with addicted children. Adult children especially. My daughter is in treatment right now and will be getting out soon. I just wonder how to interact when she has resentment (her kids were removed by DCS) and I am angry with her for the denial (SHE was taking care of them; why didn't I help her with them) and all the lies. I know she is going to have a ton of guilt and I don't want to feel like I have to walk on eggshells. She was doing meth and heroin.
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Old 11-24-2017, 11:30 AM
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Welcome!

I'm glad that your daughter is getting treatment. Hopefully she will focus on staying sober and getting her children back.

It's probably a good idea for you to set boundaries that work for you. For example, you could decide to not interact with her if/when she is blaming you for her situation. It could be a good idea for you to check out AlAnon in your city as a support for yourself.
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Old 11-24-2017, 11:48 AM
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There's a section here called Friends and Families of Substance Abusers. I've seen a lot of great input there. This will be a difficult period for her, but she doesn't have the right to start taking it out on you. Unfortunately if someone doesn't want to open their eyes to reality they're not going to. A lot of people would be feeling remorseful during this time, and waking up to how their addiction helped create their problems, without blaming others. Hopefully that will happen for her, too.
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Welcome Denise, sorry for what brings you here.
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Old 11-24-2017, 01:34 PM
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Welcome to the family. Do set boundaries of what you will and won't tolerate from her. And take a look at our friends and family forum for more insight from others in your position.

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...tance-abusers/
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Welcome to SR, Denise.

So very sorry that you are going through this.


I can only imagine your suffering and concern.

Great advice in the above responses to your post.
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Welcome to a friendly, helpful place Denise. You are not alone. I hope it'll help to be here & talk things over.
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I'm glad you found us Denise

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Old 11-24-2017, 04:01 PM
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Thanks for all the positive feedback. I was a little unsure about stepping out like this but there isn't a lot of help where I live. I will definitely check out al-anon and nar-anon.
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