Gohawksgo

I'm new today, I just got out of treatment. I've had clean time from alcohol before. I am now dealing with a gf (met me sober) who is scared and keeping me at arms length

Anna

Welcome, and you will find lots of support here. It's understandable that your girlfriend is a bit distant. You will be able to show her with your actions that you are changing.

firstymer

Right before I quit drinking my relationship with my girlfriend was hanging by a thread. In the first few weeks (and months) of my sobriety, she remained distant. I had disappointed her so many times before. So, she watched and waited. Eventually, the trust returned as my recovery strengthened. We have now been happily married for nearly 4 years.

Stay sober. Embrace your recovery. Guard it like it is your most prized possession. Because it is. Everything else will fall into place if you can do that.

ChloeRose63

Welcome to SR. You will find lots of support here. Try to concentrate on your sobriety first. That is what is most important right now.

Gohawksgo

Thank you
I know you are right it's just frustrating. I don't blame her, I just need to give her time. Otherwise I'll vent all day!

Dee74

Welcoem Gohawksgo

I know it's frustrating - we all want everything to be good again - but try and be patient - give her a little time and space

D

least

Welcome to the family. We are here to support you and offer our advice and perspectives on recovery.

I'm glad you found us and joined us! Give your gf time. Show her you mean it. My kids eventually forgave me and we now get along very well. It takes time.

Gohawksgo

Thanks!
I know I need to give her space. Acceptance right...

Hevyn

Hi Gohawksgo. I think being here to talk things over will help. I didn't have anyone in my life who got what I was going through. You're among friends who care. You are never alone!

Gohawksgo

Thanks Hevyn!
Talking does help. Here’s the kicker, she has a charity event this Saturday, also my birthday. It’s an event where you have to buy a dinner plate. I’m asking her tonight if I’m going with her. Obviously I went last year and I go to all her events. I don’t know if she reserved a seat for me or if she’s going alone.

Hevyn

I hope it's going ok today, Gohawks.

Midwest1981

welcome to SR!