I didn't drink at a bachelorette party.
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I didn't drink at a bachelorette party.
This weekend I went to the bachelorette party I previously wrote about.
Long story short - we went to three wineries, two bars, a restaurant, and the MOH and Bride smoked pot before dinner.
Not drinking was not hard for me. I made my intentions known before we even left for the first winery. Pot doesn't bother me. I've never tried it (nor cigarettes) and I don't plan it.
I think the realization of how amazing life could be was at 7:11 am. I woke up with a smile on my face. I was clear headed. I was not sick. I wasn't sweating. I didn't have a pounding-behind-the-eyes headache. I wasn't shivering. I didn't have a dry throat. The list just goes on. I wasn't guilty. I remembered every conversation I had.. every laugh that made tears come to my eyes. I was ready to start the day.
One of them got sick, but she seemed to bounce back. I remember the feeling, though. You don't really bounce back after vomiting, do you? You still shake - your insides feel like there are millions of microscopic worms wriggling around. You attempt to eat up a greasy breakfast, and even though you need the food, you have to push the plate away, or you'll be up and running to the bathroom again.
As the day went on - it got even better. I went to the grocery store, I prepared lunch for the week and dinner. I made a green smoothie for lunch. I rearranged the pantry, and refilled the flour and steel cut oat glass jars we have. I even worked on my budget.
Had I been drinking, I would have blacked out. I would have pissed the bed. I would have suffered through the morning as best as I could. Weak, tired, sick.. I would have headed straight to bed the minute I got home, without much conversation between my SO and I. I wouldn't have worked on my budget. I wouldn't have gone grocery shopping, and I wouldn't have prepared healthy lunches.
Life. Is. Better. Sober.
If you're struggling right now, please keep fighting. I know I'm only 5 months into my sobriety with a long way to go (a lifetime at that), but I can already see the change happening.. and guys, it feels damn good.
<3
Long story short - we went to three wineries, two bars, a restaurant, and the MOH and Bride smoked pot before dinner.
Not drinking was not hard for me. I made my intentions known before we even left for the first winery. Pot doesn't bother me. I've never tried it (nor cigarettes) and I don't plan it.
I think the realization of how amazing life could be was at 7:11 am. I woke up with a smile on my face. I was clear headed. I was not sick. I wasn't sweating. I didn't have a pounding-behind-the-eyes headache. I wasn't shivering. I didn't have a dry throat. The list just goes on. I wasn't guilty. I remembered every conversation I had.. every laugh that made tears come to my eyes. I was ready to start the day.
One of them got sick, but she seemed to bounce back. I remember the feeling, though. You don't really bounce back after vomiting, do you? You still shake - your insides feel like there are millions of microscopic worms wriggling around. You attempt to eat up a greasy breakfast, and even though you need the food, you have to push the plate away, or you'll be up and running to the bathroom again.
As the day went on - it got even better. I went to the grocery store, I prepared lunch for the week and dinner. I made a green smoothie for lunch. I rearranged the pantry, and refilled the flour and steel cut oat glass jars we have. I even worked on my budget.
Had I been drinking, I would have blacked out. I would have pissed the bed. I would have suffered through the morning as best as I could. Weak, tired, sick.. I would have headed straight to bed the minute I got home, without much conversation between my SO and I. I wouldn't have worked on my budget. I wouldn't have gone grocery shopping, and I wouldn't have prepared healthy lunches.
Life. Is. Better. Sober.
If you're struggling right now, please keep fighting. I know I'm only 5 months into my sobriety with a long way to go (a lifetime at that), but I can already see the change happening.. and guys, it feels damn good.
<3
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Isn't it just simply AMAZING when you are sober? Don't get me wrong I still hate the mornings and hate waking up but it is so much easier to get out of bed and actually do things. I remember all too well the bachelor parties and bachelor party WEEKENDS or at least I remember the aftermath of such events. Many times it would take two days to recover or even three when they were the 48 he variety type. God it was horrific. I would wake up dreading my existence and dreading every breath I took wishing I would just die. Every movement was pained... Goodness why did I out myself through that? It's not like I could remember if I even had fun the night before.
Fast forward to now. There is no dreading the mornings well not at least in the same way. I am up and doing things by 9 am on weekends whereas before I would be useless to the world until noon or so and not until after I had a drink to feel better. I am so happy you have found just how truly wonderful life can be...sober.
Fast forward to now. There is no dreading the mornings well not at least in the same way. I am up and doing things by 9 am on weekends whereas before I would be useless to the world until noon or so and not until after I had a drink to feel better. I am so happy you have found just how truly wonderful life can be...sober.
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Cool you went anyway and just did your own thing while still having fun. Perfect. We don't have to be shut ins... My husband is playing a huge gig next month at a bar, bunch of mutual friends' bands playing, I committed to going months ago. Love to read stories like yours...I have to still engage with drinking related events sometimes, it is what it is. I'll just buy a cute dress and drink diet coke. Thanks for posting.
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Congratulations, and that was pure joy to read. Sobriety suits you very well. The last two years I have been sober. I relish the joy in waking up the day after the 4th of July or on New Years Day when most of the world is feeling horrible, I'm planning my workout or meals. It makes it all worthwhile.
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Originally Posted by Stayingsassy 
Cool you went anyway and just did your own thing while still having fun. Perfect. We don't have to be shut ins... My husband is playing a huge gig next month at a bar, bunch of mutual friends' bands playing, I committed to going months ago. Love to read stories like yours...I have to still engage with drinking related events sometimes, it is what it is. I'll just buy a cute dress and drink diet coke. Thanks for posting.
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