Almost 90 days
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Join Date: Jun 2017
Location: Baltimore, MD
Posts: 285
Hi Lucky!
Congrats on the approach to 90! I'm just up to day 46, and feeling good. I think a slight change in perspective may help. I really don't think about drinking in terms of I "can not drink anymore." I think - I don't ever have to drink again. I don't ever have to be hungover again. I get to wake up every day without shame and dread. I get to tuck myself into bed all cozy and snug - instead of waking in the middle of the night with all my clothes still on.
Have you noticed any positive changes from sobriety? If not, that's probably where you should focus first, because those positives are HUGE for me.
I'm sure others with much more experience will give more concrete ideas too.
Congrats on the approach to 90! I'm just up to day 46, and feeling good. I think a slight change in perspective may help. I really don't think about drinking in terms of I "can not drink anymore." I think - I don't ever have to drink again. I don't ever have to be hungover again. I get to wake up every day without shame and dread. I get to tuck myself into bed all cozy and snug - instead of waking in the middle of the night with all my clothes still on.
Have you noticed any positive changes from sobriety? If not, that's probably where you should focus first, because those positives are HUGE for me.
I'm sure others with much more experience will give more concrete ideas too.
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Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 178
I was doing so much better before but the past few weeks the cravings have been really testing me. I'm just having a really difficult time. You're right though and I have tried to look at the positives, but that AV keeps bringing me back to all the negatives.
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: London
Posts: 2,040
Good job on 88 days 👍👍👍
Revisiting the reasons you made the decision to embrace sobriety could help? I have my list pinned to one of my phone's home screens and when the AV tries to trick me into thinking alcohol would bring pleasure I remind myself that...
•I made decisions and actions that could have destroyed my life
•Painful hangovers
•Days of anxiety recovering from a binge
•Wasted days in bed recovering
•Feeling tired on a Monday morning rather than refreshed and energetic
•I want to be a mother
•Unbearable shame and guilt
•Ruining my wedding night...crying for no reason...not remembering the whole party
•Impacts on my ability and motivation to exercise
•It troubles my husband
•Not remembering time spent with others...not creating memories
Wishing you well on the rest of your recovery journey x
Revisiting the reasons you made the decision to embrace sobriety could help? I have my list pinned to one of my phone's home screens and when the AV tries to trick me into thinking alcohol would bring pleasure I remind myself that...
•I made decisions and actions that could have destroyed my life
•Painful hangovers
•Days of anxiety recovering from a binge
•Wasted days in bed recovering
•Feeling tired on a Monday morning rather than refreshed and energetic
•I want to be a mother
•Unbearable shame and guilt
•Ruining my wedding night...crying for no reason...not remembering the whole party
•Impacts on my ability and motivation to exercise
•It troubles my husband
•Not remembering time spent with others...not creating memories
Wishing you well on the rest of your recovery journey x
under new management
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Calgary, Alberta
Posts: 2,339
I just posted this quote on another thread but it fits with your thread 
"Will it be easy? Nope. Will it be worth it? Absolutely!"
88 days is fantastic, keep going, you so won't regret it!
"Will it be easy? Nope. Will it be worth it? Absolutely!"
88 days is fantastic, keep going, you so won't regret it!
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,786
Congrats on 88 days sober! 
One thing you might try is to start practicing gratitude every day. I found being thankful for my blessings really changed my attitude for the better.
One thing you might try is to start practicing gratitude every day. I found being thankful for my blessings really changed my attitude for the better. 
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,877
Originally Posted by least 
Congrats on 88 days sober! One thing you might try is to start practicing gratitude every day. I found being thankful for my blessings really changed my attitude for the better.
One thing you might try is to start practicing gratitude every day. I found being thankful for my blessings really changed my attitude for the better. Things became much easier for me thereafter.
There are gratitude threads to which you may want to contribute or you may want to start your own gratitude thread and use it as a journal of sorts.
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