Jellybeanz

In a relationship with a relapsed addict. I did not know that he was still using. He told me he was clean for 3 years. But things stopped adding up. He lives with me and he says he wants a different life but he's broken my trust so much I don't know what to believe.

Dee74

Hi and welcome jellybeanz

I'm sorry for what brings you here but I know you'll find a lot of support.

Really the only evidence that means a damn is your partner actively changing i.e. not using - otherwise it's just more woulda should coulda stuff.

I hope he is prepared to work for that different life, but have you thought what you might do if he doesn't change?

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Anna

Welcome Lost, I'm sorry for your situation. It's understandable you have lost your trust and I think you should focus on what is best and right for you now. I hope that your boyfriend decides to seek help for himself.

Jellybeanz

He makes lists of what he needs to do but doesn't follow thru. There is other issues. When using he's a womanizer. I found condoms in his truck and im fixed. We don't use rubbers.
Everything out of his mouth is a lie.

fini

welcome, Jellybeanz

It's what we do when we want to protect and keep the drinking/ using option going.

check out the Friends and Family sections farther down; lots of support there for you looking after yourself.

asixstringnut

Yes we addicts when using are a great bunch of liars.
It comes with the territory.

Best of luck.

grayghost1965

If he didn't live with you, would he have somewhere to go ? Kinda sounds like he was never serious about quitting, if he ever was genuinely quit, and needed a place to stay.

Lava256

I'm sorry for what you're going through, Jellybeanz. Lots of support and prayers that you'll stay strong through this period and do what's best for you. I'm guessing you two don't have kids? If so, keep it that way. Better yet, you may want to separate from him.