Judgment
I had a college teacher once who gave me an F in his course "as a personal statement" -- his exact phrase. It had a significant effect on my life, coming at the time it came. I resented it for years and still will never forget it.
I think of him a couple of times a year, when it's my time to turn in my students' grades. Is that a time to include the personal and the emotional? Or not?
How would you as a student feel if your teacher graded you based on his/her feelings about you personally rather than your academic performance?
Aellyce, how do you as a grant-writer feel about a review panel that makes a decision about your submission based on their emotional response to your work?
Maybe you'll all say, hey, I'm fine with that, it's part of human nature. But when the judgment goes against you, won't you want reasons?
I think of him a couple of times a year, when it's my time to turn in my students' grades. Is that a time to include the personal and the emotional? Or not?
How would you as a student feel if your teacher graded you based on his/her feelings about you personally rather than your academic performance?
Aellyce, how do you as a grant-writer feel about a review panel that makes a decision about your submission based on their emotional response to your work?
Maybe you'll all say, hey, I'm fine with that, it's part of human nature. But when the judgment goes against you, won't you want reasons?
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That is so unprofessional, Courage!
I'm apoplectic just thinking about it!
It seems, then, that one kind of emotional decision--that of mercy and clemency--is far superior to an emotional decision based on malice.
Overall, though, it is important to carry out justice on behalf of those who have been legitimately wronged. An emotional decision to cut Ted Bundy a break because he was handsome and charming would have been a gross miscarriage of justice!
I guess it takes wisdom to make decisions well. You accumulate the best data you can, then humbly do your best.
I imagine even the most considered decisions are disputed by someone,
As a judge, one might strive to be good, honest and faithful--but it would be impossible to be flawless.
I'm apoplectic just thinking about it!
It seems, then, that one kind of emotional decision--that of mercy and clemency--is far superior to an emotional decision based on malice.
Overall, though, it is important to carry out justice on behalf of those who have been legitimately wronged. An emotional decision to cut Ted Bundy a break because he was handsome and charming would have been a gross miscarriage of justice!
I guess it takes wisdom to make decisions well. You accumulate the best data you can, then humbly do your best.
I imagine even the most considered decisions are disputed by someone,
As a judge, one might strive to be good, honest and faithful--but it would be impossible to be flawless.
Mebbee. I was an a-hole. He became a professional ethicist. But maybe his experience w/me turned him that way?
May I put that in my professional signature, Gilmer?
May I put that in my professional signature, Gilmer?
Cracking our moral code: How we decide what's right and wrong - Home | Ideas with Paul Kennedy | CBC Radio
haha, that's what was on the radio last night, oh so aptly.
i listen to 'ideas' every night while knitting , on the couch. sober. feels like utter luxury.
and it was an interesting program, worth listening to.
of course i take issue with the beginning statement that we all have a clear sense of what is right and what is wrong. if we had such a clear 'sense' (and what is meant by 'sense' here???), we wouldn't go through decision-making processes.....and agonies.
haha, that's what was on the radio last night, oh so aptly.
i listen to 'ideas' every night while knitting , on the couch. sober. feels like utter luxury.
and it was an interesting program, worth listening to.
of course i take issue with the beginning statement that we all have a clear sense of what is right and what is wrong. if we had such a clear 'sense' (and what is meant by 'sense' here???), we wouldn't go through decision-making processes.....and agonies.
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Grrrr! I've written an extensive comment re: reviewing and other things, and lost it! Oh well, I'll try to reproduce it sometime later. For now, I will second Gilmer's comment, it is probably the best summary one can come up with about this topic:
I think often the problems arise when we stop making our own effort but still expect it from others. That is the best recipe for unfair emotional judgments, projections often fueled by resentment towards ourselves and our own lack of discipline, driven by internal cognitive dissonance.
I think often the problems arise when we stop making our own effort but still expect it from others. That is the best recipe for unfair emotional judgments, projections often fueled by resentment towards ourselves and our own lack of discipline, driven by internal cognitive dissonance.
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Bunny,
That happened to me once although it wasn't so up close and personal. It was my year of living dangerously with recreational drugs. Big.Fat.F. Prof reneged on what grade you get in my comprehensive final is your grade. It was comprehensive, I got a C. Didn't challenge it due to my guilt over my slackerism.
I think we are of the same age when some profs felt they had license to mess with your head just you were a 'girl'. Maybe I'm off base here but sometimes it was a struggle.
Modern chestnut but yet can't let the toxic rent space in your head, although I totally understand. You are you - grade without past.
That happened to me once although it wasn't so up close and personal. It was my year of living dangerously with recreational drugs. Big.Fat.F. Prof reneged on what grade you get in my comprehensive final is your grade. It was comprehensive, I got a C. Didn't challenge it due to my guilt over my slackerism.
I think we are of the same age when some profs felt they had license to mess with your head just you were a 'girl'. Maybe I'm off base here but sometimes it was a struggle.
Modern chestnut but yet can't let the toxic rent space in your head, although I totally understand. You are you - grade without past.
Hey LostinManttan! I hope you're well I <3 that you call me bunny -- not many of the people who do are around anymore.
Maybe the grade thing *was* a male prof-female student mind-f***. I never would have thought of that then -- like you, I was pretty much out of my mind on drugs, and really young. I covered gross naivete with a hard attitude. Then later the "hard" swamped everything
I try to not get self-righteous about experiences like that -- who am I to cast stones? I made a lot of bad judgments myself, & hurt others. Who knows? Maybe he was a poor suffering alcoholic. I only brought it up as an example of something otherwise so abstract.
Aellyce, please tell use what you're referring to here. I'm mad at myself so I take it out on X? I think I'm in the right but find out that I'm really wrong or inadequate so I lash out emotionally against someone else?
We should make a rule on this thread: words of 10 letters or less. Anglo-Saxon rocks!
Maybe the grade thing *was* a male prof-female student mind-f***. I never would have thought of that then -- like you, I was pretty much out of my mind on drugs, and really young. I covered gross naivete with a hard attitude. Then later the "hard" swamped everything
I try to not get self-righteous about experiences like that -- who am I to cast stones? I made a lot of bad judgments myself, & hurt others. Who knows? Maybe he was a poor suffering alcoholic. I only brought it up as an example of something otherwise so abstract.
We should make a rule on this thread: words of 10 letters or less. Anglo-Saxon rocks!
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I want to clear this up.. You point out that the Bible says "judge not lest ye be judged"..Matthew 7:1 is very commonly quoted out of context. The Bible is a really big book, it says a lot of things and it all has meaning in context..
It goes on to say that when you judge others, you should be mindful of the fact that in the same way that you are judging them, you are also being judged in that way. It doesn't say that you should not judge, but it warns against being rash to judge before first considering your own merit or lack thereof. It advises us that if we are going to help our brothers and sisters to correct their sins, it's best to fix ourselves first, then we can be in a better position to help them. Take the log out of one's own eye first in order to see better to help the other person remove the splinter from theirs.
It certainly doesn't mean to tell Christians that they should not judge one another. There is something called discernment, I like that term better than judgment. Without discernment, I would not be able to choose an item off of a breakfast menu, any more than I would be able to choose between right and wrong courses of action. I also have to be able to discern or recognize right and wrong behavior in the people around me, because if I don't practice that, I am going to get hurt.
It goes on to say that when you judge others, you should be mindful of the fact that in the same way that you are judging them, you are also being judged in that way. It doesn't say that you should not judge, but it warns against being rash to judge before first considering your own merit or lack thereof. It advises us that if we are going to help our brothers and sisters to correct their sins, it's best to fix ourselves first, then we can be in a better position to help them. Take the log out of one's own eye first in order to see better to help the other person remove the splinter from theirs.
It certainly doesn't mean to tell Christians that they should not judge one another. There is something called discernment, I like that term better than judgment. Without discernment, I would not be able to choose an item off of a breakfast menu, any more than I would be able to choose between right and wrong courses of action. I also have to be able to discern or recognize right and wrong behavior in the people around me, because if I don't practice that, I am going to get hurt.
I want to clear this up.. You point out that the Bible says "judge not lest ye be judged"..Matthew 7:1 is very commonly quoted out of context.
It doesn't say that you should not judge, but it warns against being rash to judge before first considering your own merit or lack thereof.
It certainly doesn't mean to tell Christians that they should not judge one another.
It doesn't say that you should not judge, but it warns against being rash to judge before first considering your own merit or lack thereof.
It certainly doesn't mean to tell Christians that they should not judge one another.
The Bible also tells us to examine ourselves and our brothers and sisters.
Makes a lot of sense.
For how often do (we all) stray?
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Aellyce, please tell use what you're referring to here. I'm mad at myself so I take it out on X? I think I'm in the right but find out that I'm really wrong or inadequate so I lash out emotionally against someone else?
We should make a rule on this thread: words of 10 letters or less. Anglo-Saxon rocks!
We should make a rule on this thread: words of 10 letters or less. Anglo-Saxon rocks!
Hmm I think in general I should set a rule for myself, posts of 10 sentences or less
Thanks for that post, Aellyce. It came across very clear & very honest.
One challenging thing about teaching yourself not to project procrastination etc onto others -- there are so many people out there for whom the shoe appears to fit. In fields where a lot of the work is in the head, it's easy a) to look at someone else's apparent inactivity and call it procrastination when it's really development, and b) to really procrastinate and hide behind a curtain of fancy language. Basically we all look like slackers to the rest of the world LOL.
& I'd never use snarky to describe you.
One challenging thing about teaching yourself not to project procrastination etc onto others -- there are so many people out there for whom the shoe appears to fit. In fields where a lot of the work is in the head, it's easy a) to look at someone else's apparent inactivity and call it procrastination when it's really development, and b) to really procrastinate and hide behind a curtain of fancy language. Basically we all look like slackers to the rest of the world LOL.
& I'd never use snarky to describe you.
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One challenging thing about teaching yourself not to project procrastination etc onto others -- there are so many people out there for whom the shoe appears to fit. In fields where a lot of the work is in the head, it's easy a) to look at someone else's apparent inactivity and call it procrastination when it's really development, and b) to really procrastinate and hide behind a curtain of fancy language. Basically we all look like slackers to the rest of the world LOL.
But seriously,
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