FreedomCA

Well, I have made it to Day 25 and feeling better than yestetoday. I briefly talked with my sister and will be taking my two nieces - ages 8 and 10 - shopping for xmas gifts and then dinner. The important thing here is that my sister chose a day to do this in which my husband can't go since he is working. I think my husband knows this, but he is taking it well. And I actually agree with my sister on this. I love my husband, but he is an active alcoholic and therefore can't really be trusted around kids since she can't be certain he won't drink and/or say or do something inappropriate. It was just last June that he got secretly drunk and ruined my niece's birthday party by getting in my sister's face for no good reason yelling at her while scaring her children. She is allowing her kids to go with me since I have chosen sobriety, he has not. And while he continues not to choose sobriety, her kids can only be around him under certain circumstances, which I believe involve either my parents or her husband and her around if he is present with her kids. Sort of sad, but I can understand her worry because as much as my husband is a great guy sober, he is a ticking time bomb when drinking, and she even told him this.

Dee74

I hope you have a great time with your nieces

D

FreedomCA

Thanks. We are going tomorrow.

FreedomCA

Change of plans. I thought going to the new movie "fantastic beasts and where to find them" would be more fun than shopping, so that is the new plan along with dinner.

Wow, it's amazing how life changes when sober. I now have so many more reasons not to pick up that first drink or else I lose all of this!

PurpleKnight

Have a great time Freedom, great job on Day 25!!

Anna

Absolutely! You have choices and opportunities now, each and every day.

FreedomCA

That is exactly it! Early on in recovery, especially around Day 1, the choices didn't really seem there because the disease had such a grip over me, both physically and mentally. But now, as I have somewhat recovered, it would definitely be a choice for me to choose to drink and lose my sobriety. When I previously lost my 10.5 months, I had so many reasons and times and choices not to drink in the 2 hour span I contemplated drinking after feeling distressed about something, but I eventually made the choice to drink even though I easily could have stayed sober since I knew so many things I could otherwise do. It was a defiant choice I made.

least

Enjoy the movie with your nieces.