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Old 09-07-2016, 10:48 AM
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I have been searching for something, some kind of relief or help with a break up that has been over 1 year. I am mad at myself that I can't seem to move on. I met this man 1 year after loosing my husband (also an alcoholic) from lung cancer. I thought I was the luckiest woman to have met such a wonderful man. Of course it was all fun for the 1st year, we were traveling and doing so many things.

I knew right away that he loved to drink and I swore I wouldn't get into another relationship with a drinker, but I fell for him hard. He proposed to me after 2 years realized how much I was drinking with him and knew it wasn't good.

I just wanted to say Thank you, I am so glad I found this site!

I was always mad at him and he was always apologizing for his ways. He would get so drunk that he would fall and hurt himself, and would wet himself in the bed because he wouldn't wake up. I had such high anxiety wondering what stage he would be in when I got home on work Fridays. He would get his hours in 4 days so he could have a 3 day weekend.

I could not stand myself anymore, what I was turning into when we went out. He couldn't understand why I changed when in fact I finally came to my senses. He chose to end the relationship, which means he chose alcohol over me. I was devastated, thankful, relieved and hurt. He left me for a girl that liked to hang in the bars, which didn't last long because she left him.

I have been struggling for months, knowing that it was the right thing for me but not being able to get over it! The good thing about this is that he was a contractor, which means, his job ended in my hometown and he moved away. Thank god, I would get anxiety if I saw him in town (we live in a small town).
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Old 09-07-2016, 07:09 PM
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