My husband
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My husband
Hello everyone,
I'm very happy to be here, although firstly I'd like to say I'm a none drinker, always have been, however my husbands another matter, he's drinking around a bottle of WHISKY ,started about 3years ago, and don't know what to do, not the easiest person in the world to talk to, but there's no point in talking to him while he's a drink. can't do without it and because of this, the talking has broken down ..any advise would be greatly appreciated
Thank you all Lisa
I'm very happy to be here, although firstly I'd like to say I'm a none drinker, always have been, however my husbands another matter, he's drinking around a bottle of WHISKY ,started about 3years ago, and don't know what to do, not the easiest person in the world to talk to, but there's no point in talking to him while he's a drink. can't do without it and because of this, the talking has broken down ..any advise would be greatly appreciated
Thank you all Lisa
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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Welcome to the site.
What kind of advice are you looking for?
There's nothing you can do about his drinking, most likely. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it...sounds difficult.
We have a Friends and Family of Alcoholics section here on this site where there are a lot of people who can relate to you, as well as here in the Newcomers section. Here is a direct link to that section:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
What kind of advice are you looking for?
There's nothing you can do about his drinking, most likely. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it...sounds difficult.
We have a Friends and Family of Alcoholics section here on this site where there are a lot of people who can relate to you, as well as here in the Newcomers section. Here is a direct link to that section:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
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Welcome to the family. 
I also suggest you visit the friends and family forum. And it might help you to go to some AlAnon meetings. You have no control over his drinking. He's the only one who does.
I also suggest you visit the friends and family forum. And it might help you to go to some AlAnon meetings. You have no control over his drinking. He's the only one who does.
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Hi and welcome MrsB1963 
I'm really sorry for what brings you here but there's a ton of support here, both in the this forum and the other one mentioned.
You're worthy of support in all this - have you considered something like ALAnon?
D
I'm really sorry for what brings you here but there's a ton of support here, both in the this forum and the other one mentioned.
You're worthy of support in all this - have you considered something like ALAnon?
D
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Join Date: Sep 2015
Location: America
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He's refusing to talk with you may be how he is trying to protect his addiction. Or, he may just not want to talk. I don't know. But, no one can force him to talk...that's frustrating I know, but no one can force another person to quit drinking either. I witnessed my mother nag my dad to great lengths when trying to get him to open up about why he drank and try to get him to stop. It wasn't very pleasant, I can tell you that. I used to cringe whenever she started in on him....he did eventually quit, glad to say...but it took a while and ironically, he seemed to quit after she stopped nagging. I don't know why that is....and I'm not saying you are nagging him...I guess he'll talk when he's ready and hopefully he will quit drinking. I know this is hard on families, so hang in there....
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
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Hi and welcome,
I used to drink and my wife begged me to stop.
She would ask me..why do you have to drink all the time....?
I finally told her....i was an alcoholic... but kept on drinking....
She stuck by me...somehow...i quit...we are hanging in there today.
I quit for medical reasons.
Suggest introducing him to this site.
Maybe he will decide to quit after he learns about where he is heading.
Thanks for the post.
I used to drink and my wife begged me to stop.
She would ask me..why do you have to drink all the time....?
I finally told her....i was an alcoholic... but kept on drinking....
She stuck by me...somehow...i quit...we are hanging in there today.
I quit for medical reasons.
Suggest introducing him to this site.
Maybe he will decide to quit after he learns about where he is heading.
Thanks for the post.
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