Eliasson's Daily Accountability Thread
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Eli..you did the best thing and talked about it coming here to check in. You will get through this and the anxiety will pass. Give yourself a hug, 7 days is awesome. It's the beginning of beautiful things to come.i promise 
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Thank you Dee.
My husband is drinking at a friends pool and I'm home in pain from my lupus and trying not to feel sorry for myself. I have been doing so much better and a week is longer than I've made it in a long time. I really want to live a sober life and don't intend to drink tonight. It's just a little hard to catch my breath from anxiety.
My husband is drinking at a friends pool and I'm home in pain from my lupus and trying not to feel sorry for myself. I have been doing so much better and a week is longer than I've made it in a long time. I really want to live a sober life and don't intend to drink tonight. It's just a little hard to catch my breath from anxiety.
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So it's Day 9 and I honestly am amazed at how much better I feel already, especially emotionally, despite all the scary things that are happening right now.
Tonight will be a big test tho and I'm not looking forward to it. There is a big party at a friends house for all the families whose sons have grown up together and are about to leave for college. These are friends I have known for years and who are at the very least, very heavy drinkers. The first thing they will want to do when I walk in is pour me a glass of wine, and many people will be there til the wee hours of the morning drinking.
I would bow out altogether because I'm doing so well and it's still so early in my sobriety, and because my previous attempts at sobriety have ended on nights like this with them. But my son (and his friends since kindergarten) will be there too and I feel like out of respect and love for him I need to at least make an appearance.
I want to wake up to Day 10 tomorrow. Please help
Tonight will be a big test tho and I'm not looking forward to it. There is a big party at a friends house for all the families whose sons have grown up together and are about to leave for college. These are friends I have known for years and who are at the very least, very heavy drinkers. The first thing they will want to do when I walk in is pour me a glass of wine, and many people will be there til the wee hours of the morning drinking.
I would bow out altogether because I'm doing so well and it's still so early in my sobriety, and because my previous attempts at sobriety have ended on nights like this with them. But my son (and his friends since kindergarten) will be there too and I feel like out of respect and love for him I need to at least make an appearance.
I want to wake up to Day 10 tomorrow. Please help
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Originally Posted by Eliasson 
So it's Day 9 and I honestly am amazed at how much better I feel already, especially emotionally, despite all the scary things that are happening right now.
Tonight will be a big test tho and I'm not looking forward to it. There is a big party at a friends house for all the families whose sons have grown up together and are about to leave for college. These are friends I have known for years and who are at the very least, very heavy drinkers. The first thing they will want to do when I walk in is pour me a glass of wine, and many people will be there til the wee hours of the morning drinking.
I would bow out altogether because I'm doing so well and it's still so early in my sobriety, and because my previous attempts at sobriety have ended on nights like this with them. But my son (and his friends since kindergarten) will be there too and I feel like out of respect and love for him I need to at least make an appearance.
I want to wake up to Day 10 tomorrow. Please help
Tonight will be a big test tho and I'm not looking forward to it. There is a big party at a friends house for all the families whose sons have grown up together and are about to leave for college. These are friends I have known for years and who are at the very least, very heavy drinkers. The first thing they will want to do when I walk in is pour me a glass of wine, and many people will be there til the wee hours of the morning drinking.
I would bow out altogether because I'm doing so well and it's still so early in my sobriety, and because my previous attempts at sobriety have ended on nights like this with them. But my son (and his friends since kindergarten) will be there too and I feel like out of respect and love for him I need to at least make an appearance.
I want to wake up to Day 10 tomorrow. Please help
Be a mom he can be proud of
Have an escape plan...there's no rule says you need to be there all night. Take your own car.
There are other tips for social occasions here...(ignore the title)
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In the end though, if you don't think your sober muscles are up for this yet...don't go.
Don't let your AV use your love for your son or your sense of duty against you.
If you think you will be safer not going, maybe the most respectful thing to do in that case would be to stay home?
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Thank you Dee and Soberwolf. I drove my own car, drank water, and left early. I was able to be truly present for my son and I think he is proud of me. I literally cried with gratitude on my way home and am starting to think maybe I actually CAN do this.
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Originally Posted by Eliasson
I literally cried with gratitude on my way home and am starting to think maybe I actually CAN do this.
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It's taken me months to be able to be able around folks drinking. I still avoid it but not like I did a first. It takes time but seeing others drink doesn't bother me nearly as much as the first few months i quit. Not drinking is more a habit now.
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