Day 3
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Join Date: Jul 2016
Location: Calgary
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Day 3
Hi there,
Just wanted to post to say that I am in to day 3 without alcohol. I was a fairly heavy drinker which I was using to help with my mental illness diagnosis. My concerns are having to go to a party this weekend where I know it will be extremely strange to my friends if I dont drink. Any tips? I know the whole "Im not feeling well" or "im on anti biotics" or whatever but I know these people too well and my boyfriend will never buy it.
Thanks!
Just wanted to post to say that I am in to day 3 without alcohol. I was a fairly heavy drinker which I was using to help with my mental illness diagnosis. My concerns are having to go to a party this weekend where I know it will be extremely strange to my friends if I dont drink. Any tips? I know the whole "Im not feeling well" or "im on anti biotics" or whatever but I know these people too well and my boyfriend will never buy it.
Thanks!
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Join Date: Sep 2010
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Welcome to SR.
When I had first quit I couldn't go to any events where there was going to be drinking. The temptation would have been too great, my social discomfort sober would have been too great, and if anyone "pressured" me to drink, I probably would have caved.
Worked for me. Maybe avoiding the party will work for you. I'm not saying you have to be a hermit your entire life, but for early recovery, don't make it more difficult than you need.
When I had first quit I couldn't go to any events where there was going to be drinking. The temptation would have been too great, my social discomfort sober would have been too great, and if anyone "pressured" me to drink, I probably would have caved.
Worked for me. Maybe avoiding the party will work for you. I'm not saying you have to be a hermit your entire life, but for early recovery, don't make it more difficult than you need.
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Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: Silicon Valley
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Originally Posted by ZenLifter 
Personally, I never had a problem telling people I quit. You could try just being honest 
if youre serious about staying sober then dont put yourself in difficult situations
this is an old timer bonking you on the head like they did me when i was new
its a loving caring supportive kind of bonk
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Join Date: May 2012
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Congrats on your decision to quit and welcome to SR itstimeyyc.
I'd agree with Carl, part of getting sober means changing our lives and the things we do/people we hang around with. I'd recommend against hanging out in obvious drinking situations, especially so early in sobriety.
I'd agree with Carl, part of getting sober means changing our lives and the things we do/people we hang around with. I'd recommend against hanging out in obvious drinking situations, especially so early in sobriety.
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Join Date: May 2016
Location: MI
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Hello and Welcome. If not drinking because everyone else will be drinking there is a cause of concern for you, I would kindly decline going. If you're ok "not drinking" in a drinking crowd, I would tell them you don't drink for health reasons. That is NEVER a lie.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Welcome
Yeah I agree with all the above I'm afraid. Until I made some real changes in my lifestyle I just kept on drinking.
There's no need to shut yourself in at home and never go out again...but for a while, at least initially, I think it's wise to avoid alcohol centered events like parties.
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Yeah I agree with all the above I'm afraid. Until I made some real changes in my lifestyle I just kept on drinking.
There's no need to shut yourself in at home and never go out again...but for a while, at least initially, I think it's wise to avoid alcohol centered events like parties.
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