Delilah1

Are you working with a lawyer? You may need to get to the point where your communication is through a lawyer or mediator.

Thumpalumpacus

Hire a lawyer, and pay him to take the stress, then.

Ktmbuurger570

We have both paid lawyers too much already. We agree on everything. It's just so frustrating when the last step gets stalled by her lawyer. It's always something. Something isn't enough. She deserves more. Enough to drive us both to drink! The lawyer always wants more. Even when there isn't any more.
Sorry for the rant.
My wife and are are toxic together.
The legal system is not easy to navigate.

Ktmbuurger570

I am trying to stay sober. She is not. She has moved out thankfully.
A legal separation has been hard to achieve thanks to greedy lawyers.
I am trying to move on emotionally and financially but it has proven to be easier to fall in love than it is to get out of it.

thomas11

When actively drinking, pretty much anything is a green light to drink, so it isn't surprising that this event triggered you to drink. As others have said, it is very important to try and reach a point where drinking is simply eliminated as an option. Believe it or not, it will be easier to traverse the landmines sober.

bigsombrero

Ktm if a bird poops on my head, it's not an excuse for me to drink. Though the "alcoholic me" certainly thinks it is. Your inner alcoholic is crawling the walls looking for cracks, any minor or major obstacle is going to light that desire. Many of us got sober during life's most stressful moments - many of which were caused (at least partially) by our addiction. Life won't stop when you get sober, bills will still come and collection calls will still ring the phone, I know this firsthand.

You will not drink. That is the bottom line. No matter what. You will not drink. That is your first and only goal. The rest will work itself out, just don't drink. Period. You can do this, man. Good luck and keep posting!