Slipped up at first weekend
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I've been there! Learn from it and have a stronger plan for next weekend! Getting through the first few weekends were the toughest for me, but I got through them and haven't looked back since. You can do it!
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Hi azure,
This is very common, you can read lots of similar stories on SR. Most of us tend to have our trigger patterns and it's very important in early sobriety to get familiar with them and learn how to cope with them. What does Saturday represent to you? Was it something about the Easter holiday? What were the events, thoughts, feelings etc that did you in? Perhaps even write these down and look at them daily, add to it when you learn more. And start making specific plans as to a course of action when your Saturday triggers hit, but instead of waiting till next Saturday, make a plan what to do in advance and try to arrange your weekend differently from what you usually do. Doing things differently is the key for most of us when we get sober because the pull of the familiar can be extremely strong, as you already know.
If weekends are difficult, there is a sober weekender thread here that starts on Thursdays and typically goes beyond the weekend, jump into it and keep checking it, post etc. Or if you prefer real life stuff, seek extra support in your immediate physical environment.
It's a yo-yo experience for many of us in the beginning, the thing to do is to find ways of breaking it somehow. You can absolutely do it
This is very common, you can read lots of similar stories on SR. Most of us tend to have our trigger patterns and it's very important in early sobriety to get familiar with them and learn how to cope with them. What does Saturday represent to you? Was it something about the Easter holiday? What were the events, thoughts, feelings etc that did you in? Perhaps even write these down and look at them daily, add to it when you learn more. And start making specific plans as to a course of action when your Saturday triggers hit, but instead of waiting till next Saturday, make a plan what to do in advance and try to arrange your weekend differently from what you usually do. Doing things differently is the key for most of us when we get sober because the pull of the familiar can be extremely strong, as you already know.
If weekends are difficult, there is a sober weekender thread here that starts on Thursdays and typically goes beyond the weekend, jump into it and keep checking it, post etc. Or if you prefer real life stuff, seek extra support in your immediate physical environment.
It's a yo-yo experience for many of us in the beginning, the thing to do is to find ways of breaking it somehow. You can absolutely do it
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Don't be too hard on yourself. Been there... done that... You're back and posting again. That's important. Next time the AV starts screaming at you, log on here... there's always someone ready to help. Stay with us. 
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Yes Aellyce I knew I'd struggle . I'm a single dad , kids are teenagers , daughters abroad now for a while . Son doing his own thing now , out and about.I've kinda pushed everyone away with my drinking and ive isolated myself I guess. It's a big change ,kids almost grown . I'm almost at a loss. It should be exciting , planning this chapter for myself as I've had full custody since they were small. Funny thing was I was walking to shop after work I met a guy who drinks in the bar I would go to. I told him I'm not drinking , he wished me luck and I went straight to shop and bought a few cans as well as food
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Sorry hit send button too early. I am lonely I suppose and I'd like to meet someone, a nice woman but I want to wait til I'm strong and in a good place. I'll have a good think as to what you said and others also. Thanks again
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Originally Posted by soberwolf 
This is why reaching out is such an important tool of a sobriety plan
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Hello,
I'm glad you are reaching out, there are great people on this site. Here have been lots of posts this weekend talking about how Easter is the time for renewal, it is the perfect time for you to start again.
I'm glad you are reaching out, there are great people on this site. Here have been lots of posts this weekend talking about how Easter is the time for renewal, it is the perfect time for you to start again.
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Originally Posted by ChloeRose63
Loneliness is one of the triggers to pick up a drink. Now that you know this...make a plan of action. Go to a meeting. Keep posting. We are always here.
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
Hello, I'm glad you are reaching out, there are great people on this site. Here have been lots of posts this weekend talking about how Easter is the time for renewal, it is the perfect time for you to start again.
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