Fear of Success?
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Maybe someone has already mentioned this, but there is something called a self-fulfilling prophecy. Look into it. Its just like you are describing. You see yourself as a certain person and you continue to do those things to fulfill that vision, whether it be positive or negative.
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Yeah I agree with FarToGo, the contributions have been really helpful for me.
So I've thought a bit more about it and I definitely think that my fear of success is a combination of what some of you said. It is a fear that I'll never have another drink. That this time, I actually will succeed and never drink again. That means I have to deal with reality. That means I no longer will be "sick." That means that if I fail at something, it's because I actually failed and I can't say "well If I wasn't drinking I know I would have done X Y or Z and succeeded" I will no longer have the "luxury" of being able to think "well I'm a drunk, so what do you expect? I'm doing pretty well for being a drunk don't you think? I think so!" In many ways I'm afraid to lose that "handicap" but at the same time I'm excited because nobody knows I have the handicap in my professional life, and very few in my personal life... so I''m playing life with a handicap that nobody knows about, what is the point in having it? At least if we are all going to lose at the game of life at the end....then I might as well play it without the handicap....
So I've thought a bit more about it and I definitely think that my fear of success is a combination of what some of you said. It is a fear that I'll never have another drink. That this time, I actually will succeed and never drink again. That means I have to deal with reality. That means I no longer will be "sick." That means that if I fail at something, it's because I actually failed and I can't say "well If I wasn't drinking I know I would have done X Y or Z and succeeded" I will no longer have the "luxury" of being able to think "well I'm a drunk, so what do you expect? I'm doing pretty well for being a drunk don't you think? I think so!" In many ways I'm afraid to lose that "handicap" but at the same time I'm excited because nobody knows I have the handicap in my professional life, and very few in my personal life... so I''m playing life with a handicap that nobody knows about, what is the point in having it? At least if we are all going to lose at the game of life at the end....then I might as well play it without the handicap....
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