ckoures

I've logged an entire month without one glass of wine, shot of vodka or can of beer. My head doesn't hurt. My stomach's ok. I still don't like bad news, but keeping busy has kept me from wanting to drink. My only trouble I see on the near horizon is a less-than-anticipated discussion with my soon-to-be-ex over possible reconciliation, facilitated by his sister. What was I thinking when I agreed to that? But I suppose at some point I do have to talk to him.

Either way, I'm committed to not drinking then - or now. Life isn't so hard on my own terms.

Thank you. Thanks for the ideas about plans and for the support. You all rock!

BringingBackB

Ckoures - congratulations on a month!!!!

You are doing amazing

ItWillBeWorthIt

Congratulations on month month - so happy for you. I wish you the best when you meet with your soon-to-be ex.

BlissWithin

One month is amazing! Keep pushing through!

2ndhandrose

Woo Hoo, 1 month is awesome

Good luck with the ex, I hope it is a positive meeting, no matter the outcome.

ckoures, rock on sober

Ruby2

Congrats on one month. That's terrific. Are you interested in the soon to be ex or did you agree just because? It sounds like you may have felt pressured into it. Maybe Set boundaries before so that you're not walking into something too uncomfortable.

Keep going!

Dee74

Well done on that month ckoures

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2WheelsGood

Congrats. Feels good, doesn't it?

Flex those emotional muscles. It will be a lot easier dealing with an awkward meeting sober than it will cleaning up the mess after a drunk meeting. Good for you.

MythOfSisyphus

That is great! Congrats on getting a month under your belt.

Soberwolf

Way to go Ckours

Calicofish

Well done.

CF

ckoures

Thank you! I'm happy about it. And I am setting some ground rules for this "meeting." I'm not too thrilled about it but agreed because of the length of our marriage (25 years) and because I love his family and they asked me to. However, I have some rules - no swearing, no being disrespectful, I get my say, he gets his... and if there is no agreement to joint counseling while I continue to live outside the marital home, there is no reason to not divorce. The amount of stress his moods put in my life is overwhelming. I feel like a different person since I left. Even my kids say I am more relaxed and fun. I'm not going back to the way it was, no matter how much I love his family. I'm done paying the price so someone is there to care for him and for them. Thanks for all your support!

sleepie

That's great ckoures! It is good to hear you are feeling the benefits of your new lifestyle