53 Days & A Nervous Intro...
Hello, my name is May
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: United Kingdom
Posts: 14
Just wanted to pop back in & say thank you to everyone for the very warm welcomes - I'm feeling a bit special (in a good way) this morning, reading all of your messages! 
If there are any lurkers/non posters reading this right now? I urge you to take that first big step forward & just say a little hello to everyone...I wish I'd done that weeks ago, but maybe the time just wasn't right for me? Don't ever feel alone, like I did!
All the best,
May
#day54
If there are any lurkers/non posters reading this right now? I urge you to take that first big step forward & just say a little hello to everyone...I wish I'd done that weeks ago, but maybe the time just wasn't right for me? Don't ever feel alone, like I did!
All the best,
May
#day54
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 6,348
Well Done!
Originally Posted by 100515 
Seventy one days sober & still here!
May
#day71
May
#day71
71 daze is really solid start!
The first 90 seem to be the most difficult. I think once past that our bodies are getting away from the "habit" part. But ah, the brain........
If you've accepted you can't drink and are willing to change your time will stack up in a hurry!!!!
Awesome job!
Hello, my name is May
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: United Kingdom
Posts: 14
Today is day 90 for me, and here’s a useful list I found by: Recovery Princess - Things you may experience during your first 90 days of sobriety - I have also added my own experiences of my previous 89 days and counting…
Much love to you all,
May
#day90
Your true friends will still be your friends when you stop drinking, but it may take them a while to get used to the new you.
"I’ve quite literally disappeared off the radar, so my friends know anything about where I’ve been, or what I’ve been up to. I’ve also kept away from Facebook, and my phone has been switched off.”
Life is not as unbearable without alcohol as you might first believe.
“I’m still coming to terms with that belief, but am amazed at how well I’ve been doing so far!”
You are far stronger than you give yourself credit for.
“My newly found willpower, strength, courage, and sometimes…stubbornness have seen me through so far.”
Hangovers are a huge waste of time.
“Gone are the two, sometimes three day hangovers of feeling sick to the stomach, achy bones, dodgy bowel movements, and convincing oneself that it’s just the flu virus...wine flu more like!”
Life is fun without alcohol.
“I’ve yet to experience a night out since being AF, so I can’t agree or disagree to that statement. I still don’t feel quite ready to tackle that issue just yet, especially since I’ve disconnected myself from my friends…one step at a time!”
Time becomes precious.
“Time has slowed down considerably! I’m particularly enjoying the longer mornings and new morning schedule of coffee, exercise, and reading sober blogs for inspiration to start the day on a more positive note.
7pm was my previous drinky time, and at first I became agitated around about that hour every night, but found new habits to fill the long gaps. Some good ones…reading, and some bad ones…naughty munchies!"
You begin to find out who you really are again.
“Still learning new things about myself each and every day! It’s like being born again, with a brand new brain that actually experiences real and true feelings. It’s been quite a rollercoaster of emotions, ups and downs."
The desire for alcohol lingers for a long time.
“Living with a family member that still drinks quite heavily during the evenings has been a huge test of willpower. The full drinks cabinet, the shopping for more alcohol whilst grocery shopping, warm summer nights by the beach bars and cafes, an expensive bottle of wine gifted by a neighbour, for my birthday in May - still in the drinks cabinet, and still unopened! Huge tests of willpower and strength each and every day!”
You have more money.
“I’m much better with money! Managing to survive on very little these days, it’s quite surprising! Even thinking it’s time for a decent holiday across the seas and far away...I’m not kidding when I say that my last proper holiday was before the Millennium - yes, really!
Exercise makes a huge difference to your frame of mind.
“I used to love running, but all that went out of the window when it was time for booze o’clock. I’m still quite angry at myself for letting the fitness slide away from me, hopefully I can build my way back up slowly again? The poor old knees aren’t quite what they used to be! I’ve got a cross trainer at the foot of my bed that has been used as a clothes horse for the past few months, but this morning, I threw the clothes into a heap on the floor & jumped on the trainer for 30 mins…and got a decent sweat on…and quite liked it! Oh, and I did put the clothes away in their rightful place too! No excuses for tomorrow morning…"
Just one drink is not okay.
“And that’s exactly how the problem first started! One drink was never enough for a while, then two drinks didn’t quite do it for me, so then it progressed to the nightcaps, that led to several nightcaps and so on…”
Books are a great way to escape, relax and learn.
“Some great life savers that I’ve read in the last few months are: Staying Sober by Binki Laidler.
The Sober Revolution by Lucy Rocca & Sarah Turner.
Mrs D is Going Without by Lotta Dann.
And of course…all the amazing sober blogs online!
One thing I’ve noticed about my fellow bloggers is that we’re all bloody good writers and seem to have creativity in common.”
You will know if you were truly an alcoholic or problem drinker.
“I’m definitely a problem drinker that was about to slide down a very slippery and dangerous slope.”
It is okay to say ‘No’ to party invitations and events if you are not ready for them yet.
“This is something I now need to work on, as I’ve been mostly hiding away for the past few months. I think I’m almost ready to start socialising again?”
Writing is a great way to express your emotions, thoughts and feelings.
“I need to comment a bit more, and be more supportive towards my fellow sober forum members, as they have been towards me. Now that I have 90 days, I feel a little more confident about offering my advice and experiences so far.”
Quotes and affirmations help lift your mood.
“Every morning, I search for meaningful quotes and beautiful pictures on Pinterest to start the day…it’s also useful during bouts of insomnia too.”
Getting organised is a useful way to clear your mind.
“I’m about to have a massive eBay selling spree - that will be a full time job in itself! There’s also an attic and garage to clear from a recent house move…plenty of things that are still packed in boxes and they need to go!”
You only have one life, you owe it to yourself to be truly happy.
“I wasted too many years looking after, and making sure everyone else was happy, before my own health and happiness. This too, has to change!”
One day at a time works best.
“Baby steps!"
Much love to you all,
May
#day90
Your true friends will still be your friends when you stop drinking, but it may take them a while to get used to the new you.
"I’ve quite literally disappeared off the radar, so my friends know anything about where I’ve been, or what I’ve been up to. I’ve also kept away from Facebook, and my phone has been switched off.”
Life is not as unbearable without alcohol as you might first believe.
“I’m still coming to terms with that belief, but am amazed at how well I’ve been doing so far!”
You are far stronger than you give yourself credit for.
“My newly found willpower, strength, courage, and sometimes…stubbornness have seen me through so far.”
Hangovers are a huge waste of time.
“Gone are the two, sometimes three day hangovers of feeling sick to the stomach, achy bones, dodgy bowel movements, and convincing oneself that it’s just the flu virus...wine flu more like!”
Life is fun without alcohol.
“I’ve yet to experience a night out since being AF, so I can’t agree or disagree to that statement. I still don’t feel quite ready to tackle that issue just yet, especially since I’ve disconnected myself from my friends…one step at a time!”
Time becomes precious.
“Time has slowed down considerably! I’m particularly enjoying the longer mornings and new morning schedule of coffee, exercise, and reading sober blogs for inspiration to start the day on a more positive note.
7pm was my previous drinky time, and at first I became agitated around about that hour every night, but found new habits to fill the long gaps. Some good ones…reading, and some bad ones…naughty munchies!"
You begin to find out who you really are again.
“Still learning new things about myself each and every day! It’s like being born again, with a brand new brain that actually experiences real and true feelings. It’s been quite a rollercoaster of emotions, ups and downs."
The desire for alcohol lingers for a long time.
“Living with a family member that still drinks quite heavily during the evenings has been a huge test of willpower. The full drinks cabinet, the shopping for more alcohol whilst grocery shopping, warm summer nights by the beach bars and cafes, an expensive bottle of wine gifted by a neighbour, for my birthday in May - still in the drinks cabinet, and still unopened! Huge tests of willpower and strength each and every day!”
You have more money.
“I’m much better with money! Managing to survive on very little these days, it’s quite surprising! Even thinking it’s time for a decent holiday across the seas and far away...I’m not kidding when I say that my last proper holiday was before the Millennium - yes, really!
Exercise makes a huge difference to your frame of mind.
“I used to love running, but all that went out of the window when it was time for booze o’clock. I’m still quite angry at myself for letting the fitness slide away from me, hopefully I can build my way back up slowly again? The poor old knees aren’t quite what they used to be! I’ve got a cross trainer at the foot of my bed that has been used as a clothes horse for the past few months, but this morning, I threw the clothes into a heap on the floor & jumped on the trainer for 30 mins…and got a decent sweat on…and quite liked it! Oh, and I did put the clothes away in their rightful place too! No excuses for tomorrow morning…"
Just one drink is not okay.
“And that’s exactly how the problem first started! One drink was never enough for a while, then two drinks didn’t quite do it for me, so then it progressed to the nightcaps, that led to several nightcaps and so on…”
Books are a great way to escape, relax and learn.
“Some great life savers that I’ve read in the last few months are: Staying Sober by Binki Laidler.
The Sober Revolution by Lucy Rocca & Sarah Turner.
Mrs D is Going Without by Lotta Dann.
And of course…all the amazing sober blogs online!
One thing I’ve noticed about my fellow bloggers is that we’re all bloody good writers and seem to have creativity in common.”
You will know if you were truly an alcoholic or problem drinker.
“I’m definitely a problem drinker that was about to slide down a very slippery and dangerous slope.”
It is okay to say ‘No’ to party invitations and events if you are not ready for them yet.
“This is something I now need to work on, as I’ve been mostly hiding away for the past few months. I think I’m almost ready to start socialising again?”
Writing is a great way to express your emotions, thoughts and feelings.
“I need to comment a bit more, and be more supportive towards my fellow sober forum members, as they have been towards me. Now that I have 90 days, I feel a little more confident about offering my advice and experiences so far.”
Quotes and affirmations help lift your mood.
“Every morning, I search for meaningful quotes and beautiful pictures on Pinterest to start the day…it’s also useful during bouts of insomnia too.”
Getting organised is a useful way to clear your mind.
“I’m about to have a massive eBay selling spree - that will be a full time job in itself! There’s also an attic and garage to clear from a recent house move…plenty of things that are still packed in boxes and they need to go!”
You only have one life, you owe it to yourself to be truly happy.
“I wasted too many years looking after, and making sure everyone else was happy, before my own health and happiness. This too, has to change!”
One day at a time works best.
“Baby steps!"
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Originally Posted by 100515
Hello... it’s only taken 53 days to finally find the courage to introduce myself!
My name is May, I’m 39 years old & alcohol is my poison.
I currently have 53 days of sobriety under my belt - that’s a first, in at least a decade!
Daily/nightly (non creepy) lurking & reading of posts & blogs here on SR, have inspired me & boosted my willpower to achieve these 53 days and counting…so thank you all so very much & I wish you the very best on your journeys towards a happier & healthier version of you!
If you made it this far? Thank you for reading my nervous intro...
Onwards & upwards to everyone!
May
My name is May, I’m 39 years old & alcohol is my poison.
I currently have 53 days of sobriety under my belt - that’s a first, in at least a decade!
Daily/nightly (non creepy) lurking & reading of posts & blogs here on SR, have inspired me & boosted my willpower to achieve these 53 days and counting…so thank you all so very much & I wish you the very best on your journeys towards a happier & healthier version of you!
If you made it this far? Thank you for reading my nervous intro...
Onwards & upwards to everyone!
May
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