Drinkin' sister
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Drinkin' sister
Today I let my sister know that I don't drink alcohol anymore...she is planning to come for a long weekend visit and stay with me. For some reason (trigger!) this stresses me out a lot! We are old drinkin' pals!
I told her I don't mind being around people that have a beer or two, but I don't like being around a lot of drinking, and prefer not to have any in my house! I also told her that if she changes her mind about staying with me and stays with another family member, I won't be offended...
Of course she answered every other question in the email...but totally ignored this situation....
GRRRRRRR, do I have to bring it up again?
Anyway, I am betting she will find a reason not to stay with me after all.....
I told her I don't mind being around people that have a beer or two, but I don't like being around a lot of drinking, and prefer not to have any in my house! I also told her that if she changes her mind about staying with me and stays with another family member, I won't be offended...
Of course she answered every other question in the email...but totally ignored this situation....
GRRRRRRR, do I have to bring it up again?
Anyway, I am betting she will find a reason not to stay with me after all.....
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And she could see the positive changes in you, and decide to hop on the wagon with you.
You have set your boundaries and communicated them. Now perhaps making sure they are respected is what you need to do.
Not easy, bit you'll be proud you did. Rooting for you
You have set your boundaries and communicated them. Now perhaps making sure they are respected is what you need to do.
Not easy, bit you'll be proud you did. Rooting for you
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Keep your commitment to sobriety first, even if that means she stays elsewhere. You don't need the added stress! And if she does still want to stay with you, reiterate your boundaries about no booze in the house and make sure she acknowledges that.
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Yes bring it up & make sure she understands your home is a no alcohol zone mine is too btw and ive never felt bad
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
Do your best
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Yes bring it up & make sure she understands your home is a no alcohol zone mine is too btw and ive never felt bad
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
Do your best
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Yes bring it up & make sure she understands your home is a no alcohol zone mine is too btw and ive never felt bad
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
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Originally Posted by Thepatman 
And she could see the positive changes in you, and decide to hop on the wagon with you.
You have set your boundaries and communicated them. Now perhaps making sure they are respected is what you need to do.
Not easy, bit you'll be proud you did. Rooting for you
You have set your boundaries and communicated them. Now perhaps making sure they are respected is what you need to do.
Not easy, bit you'll be proud you did. Rooting for you
But not really, she will probably stay with a brother, and that will be fine.....I love her dearly, but that behavior is high risk to me!
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Originally Posted by brynn
Keep your commitment to sobriety first, even if that means she stays elsewhere. You don't need the added stress! And if she does still want to stay with you, reiterate your boundaries about no booze in the house and make sure she acknowledges that.
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Originally Posted by soberwolf
Yes bring it up & make sure she understands your home is a no alcohol zone mine is too btw and ive never felt bad
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
If she ignored this just calmly tell her in a phonecall if she really wants to see you she will accept this
If not possibly cancel and explain why
You are awesome
Much less stressed now that a decision has been made...
A few weeks ago I threw away 3/4 of a case of Miller Lite, bottles (the good stuff!) and several unopened bottles of wine.....that I was saving just in case ...for company.....guess that was the beginning of my decision...
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