5 months sober and now seperated
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5 months sober and now seperated
I am asking for information as I have gone thru detox, 28 day treatment centre, was just in the midst of gradual return to work program and my relationship hit the bucket.
I have reverted to my first few days out of treatment, scared, vulnerable, insecure.
I have a safe home to live in which I am thankful for and yet each day is a struggle just to get motivated.
When large life events happen is it normal to revert back to the beginning of sobriety? Like I have very limited short term memory - I will drive by the street I live on going home. I walk into a room and forgot what I went in there for.
Thanks,
Angela
I have reverted to my first few days out of treatment, scared, vulnerable, insecure.
I have a safe home to live in which I am thankful for and yet each day is a struggle just to get motivated.
When large life events happen is it normal to revert back to the beginning of sobriety? Like I have very limited short term memory - I will drive by the street I live on going home. I walk into a room and forgot what I went in there for.
Thanks,
Angela
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Angela,
I experience some of the same things you are. I just attirbute it to my body is still healing. Not only are you in recovery but you are also dealing with a loss (your relationship). Be kind to yourself & be patient with yourself, never forget to take care of you.
Since I became sober, I am seeing some very real & fundamental problems in my marriage. I'm not sure if it is even repairable at this time. So I hear you....these changes can put us through the ringer at times.
Hugs, Monica
I experience some of the same things you are. I just attirbute it to my body is still healing. Not only are you in recovery but you are also dealing with a loss (your relationship). Be kind to yourself & be patient with yourself, never forget to take care of you.
Since I became sober, I am seeing some very real & fundamental problems in my marriage. I'm not sure if it is even repairable at this time. So I hear you....these changes can put us through the ringer at times.
Hugs, Monica
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Originally Posted by AnginMJ 
When large life events happen is it normal to revert back to the beginning of sobriety?
When facing trauma or significant changes in life, we often regress to childhood states in which we either experienced a great deal of fear and/or safety. This sometimes includes building barriers as a means of remaining "safe," and/or a reduction in activity to weather the storm.
The "beginning of sobriety" is even more nebulous, though if you're referring to feelings of vulnerability, fear about the future, and an absence of motivation, then there's nothing unnatural about it. In my experience, we're generally ill-equipped to manage stressful or traumatic events on our own, including getting sober.
My experience has been that the more I work on my sobriety, and the longer I remain sober, I become better equipped to manage or work through life's inevitable challenges, instead of using them as an excuse to drink.
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Welcome to SR, Angela.
Congratulations on five months of sobriety; well done.
I am sorry to hear about the change in your relationship. I think that there a lot of similarities between seeking sobriety and dealing with a loss; they are both major life events and our reactions and emotions can be very similar.
Stay strong yet, at the same time, be kind and gentle with yourself. You can navigate this new challenge and transition successfully.
SR is here for you; glad you found us.
Congratulations on five months of sobriety; well done.
I am sorry to hear about the change in your relationship. I think that there a lot of similarities between seeking sobriety and dealing with a loss; they are both major life events and our reactions and emotions can be very similar.
Stay strong yet, at the same time, be kind and gentle with yourself. You can navigate this new challenge and transition successfully.
SR is here for you; glad you found us.
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