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It is the 15th of March, 2015. I have been drinking wine for nearly 15 years nearly non-stop. I have fallen from middle class to living on food stamps and on my son’s disability plus whatever cash my wife’s mom and aunt give us every month. When things got seriously tight, I begged my friends, family, and relatives to lend me money. Now I’ve lost a few of them ‘cause I know they dread staying in touch with me fearing I would ask them for more money. We have fallen so far. In 2004, our combined income was over $100,000. We could literally be homeless next month. I have no confidence anymore in getting a job. My wife probably feels the same way. Yet, we would have some extra money if we were not spending what we have on wine night after night. So I’m ready to quit … for good. I have an addiction that will make it hard to quit. But what choice do I have? Who is going to take care of of our son if my wife and I are not here? We eat well, as well as possible, but that’s not enough. Drinking is killing me.
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Hi and welcome.
Often the obvious is in front of us but because of conditioning we don’t see it.
STOP DRINKING is the recommendation. Stop the ah buts and try to get honest with yourself about your drinking and how low you feel because of it.
No it’s not easy to stop but millions have and are back living a better life than they could hope for.
It does take some backbone and stamina to overcome this powerful, cunning, baffling and insidious disease. YOU CAN DO IT!
BE WELL
Often the obvious is in front of us but because of conditioning we don’t see it.
STOP DRINKING is the recommendation. Stop the ah buts and try to get honest with yourself about your drinking and how low you feel because of it.
No it’s not easy to stop but millions have and are back living a better life than they could hope for.
It does take some backbone and stamina to overcome this powerful, cunning, baffling and insidious disease. YOU CAN DO IT!
BE WELL
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Join Date: Jun 2014
Location: The Northland
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I just read this on someone else's thread and it really spoke to me:
"I'm a man, not a ******* child. Let's do this."
Yes, let's do this. You'll get lots of support and advice here, but you have to take some action. Welcome!
"I'm a man, not a ******* child. Let's do this."
Yes, let's do this. You'll get lots of support and advice here, but you have to take some action. Welcome!
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Deep in the heart of Texas
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Welcome to our family. Addiction does not discriminate, but we all have the power at any moment to say, "This is NOT how my story is going to end." You just proved that by posting here. Keep it up - telling your story is therapeutic.
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Hi seeker.. I can relate and have similarities to your story.. I can tell you from my sober periods that managing money, cash flow and generating income, and managing the fear of money are all much easier when sober.
Sometimes things that appear totally insurmountable can be brought under control with simple measures, but it is hard to grasp those as alcohol and the emotional noise it makes drowns everything out..
For myself I'm about a week sober again and working on not having the first drink only.. But I'm more clear headed calmer and I can open those bills
Good luck keep posting and sharing please
Sometimes things that appear totally insurmountable can be brought under control with simple measures, but it is hard to grasp those as alcohol and the emotional noise it makes drowns everything out..
For myself I'm about a week sober again and working on not having the first drink only.. But I'm more clear headed calmer and I can open those bills
Good luck keep posting and sharing please
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