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03-09-2015, 01:51 PM

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spouse1

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Spouse new to recovery!

Hello, my spouse just got out of a 30 day rehab program. He and I are currently attending marriage counseling and he continues to attend AA meetings. What is my role? How can I support him, but still be able to live my own life without constantly wondering what he's doing or basically driving myself crazy everyday? I know Al-Anon is the obvious option. Basically, this was a huge shock to me...I had no idea my husband was an alcoholic!

03-09-2015, 01:53 PM

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Gonnachange

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Welcome to SR! You'll likely get some responses here, but there is a section called Friends and Family that will probably generate more responses from folks who have had a similar experience.

03-09-2015, 01:55 PM

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Gonnachange

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Hopefully this link will work:

Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

03-09-2015, 01:58 PM

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Anna

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Welcome!

You can find support for yourself at AlAnon or in our Friends & Families section.

03-09-2015, 02:03 PM

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SoberLeigh

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Welcome to SR, spouse1; glad you found us.

03-09-2015, 02:18 PM

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Soberwolf

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Welcome spouse its nice to meet you

03-09-2015, 03:48 PM

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PurpleKnight

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Welcome to the Forum!!

03-09-2015, 03:52 PM

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least

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Welcome to the family!

The friends and family forums offer much wisdom and experience from those in similar situations. Give it a look.

I'm glad you joined us. You'll find lots of support here.

03-09-2015, 04:35 PM

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totfit

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The best way to support him is to let him "do his own thing". Go ahead and live your life. His recovery is up to him. Leaving it up to him actually takes pressure off both of you. Just my two cents.