riig

I fell again last night. Binge drinking. In one hour I kicked away all my sober progress.

Soberwolf

Hi Riig dust yourself off & try again bud

Is there anything you could add to strenghten your sobriety plan ?

riig

I don't think I have a sobriety plan

Soberwolf

A sobriety plan could consist of

AA/AVRT, Group therapy, Volenteering, Addiction Counselling, College course

Are you doing this using only willpower riig ?

riig

Yes. Everyone says it doesn't work though

Anna

SW has lots of good ideas for recovery plans. Most of us have to have some plan for when the cravings hit.

Manda33079

I thought I had a plan but then never followed it when I relapsed this past time. I also agree with having a plan, but make it a plan that is fool proof to follow.

Jazzy7777

Riig, in my personal opinion you did not kick away all of your sober progress. To me that is like saying: "I have overhauled my diet and exercised and ate right all month. Today I ate a piece of cake so I derailed all of my healthy choices." Yes, you made a mistake, but please don't forget the days you were sober. They were victories. Learn from your mistake and keep going.

DuhDave

You did NOT "kick away ALL your sober progress" !

You simply proved to yourself...your not perfect !

Remember..."Progress...not Perfection"- AA Big Book

You're right on track. Jump right back and keep it going !

DD

PurpleKnight

Go at things again riig, but might be time to change or tweak your plan, more support, more face to face support maybe, try something different!!

You can do this!!

lovehoops

start over now Riig..its just a bumpnin a long winding road.

Jazzyy, thanks for the recommendation and the video link . I will check it out

IOAA2

Hi.

The internet is a great place or a poor place for info., especially about alcoholism and getting AND STAYING SOBER.
A proven way is being sober with ourself about our drinking and that’s tough because alcoholics are notorious liars about their drinking. Then we need to accept the fact that we cannot drink one day at a time in a row so we don’t need to try to get sober again.

This is not a happy go lucky trip with the birds and bees down the path of everlasting happiness and joy with no further concerns.

It will require a desire to be sober and work on change s needed to remain sober.

We have choices to be comfortable in life or an existence of continued misery that gets progressively worse, trust me.

BE WELL

riig

Thanks all. I feel like s**t right now, so perhaps it is not the best time to make plans right now. I have been known to fail on my endeavors when I make plans without a cool mind.

riig

One moré thing. I think my motives to quit are no right. I hear everyone saying they want to get their life back, etc.

My motive is this: I have hurt the person I love the most in the world through my drinking. I want to make it right for her. Somehow if I quit it will be as much for her as for me.

Is this a legitimate reason to quit?

courage2

Frankly, any reason is a good reason to quit. With some sober time and good support, you may come to see that what you thought was quitting for someone else is really saving yourself for yourself. The more reasons you have for sobriety the better, IMO.

I agree with others about a plan. People talk about a toolbox. Like learning a bunch of things you can do when you want to drink, or not do so that you won't want to drink, or do to stay focused on your recovery. People to call, things to meditate or pray on, groups to attend, ways to energize or soothe yourself. Get active in joining or building a recovery program!

Dee74

Many people quit for others riig, but many of those folks also find that's not enough and they return to drinking....

My advice is try and focus on why you want to quit.

Whether or not you get back with your gf is a separate issue, but staying sober certainly can't hurt.

Maybe it's time to try something other than willpower?

D

Soberwolf

Im going to tell you what my gf told me

I dont want you doing this for me it means you dont want it for yourself and if thats the case your always going to want it it ruins your life i hate to see you this way you have given up

my gf told me this & more she then moved out & told me il only come bk if you can get sober for you she also said il know when your back

Riig thats what my gf told me in lehmans terms i tried getting sober for her it didnt work