Shoot.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: C.C. Ma.
Posts: 3,697
Hi and welcome back.
I’m not a fan of relapses as they are so dangerous and we have no guarantee we can regain sobriety.
However I am very aware of them and know the pain and shame I had each time. On my final day of drinking I became honest with myself about my drinking and accepted the fact I could not drink in safety. I then started doing the suggestions of those sober in the program and have never looked back.
A great benefit of my not drinking is feeling good in my own skin most of the time because I’ve learned to handle the things I drank about.
BE WELL
I’m not a fan of relapses as they are so dangerous and we have no guarantee we can regain sobriety.
However I am very aware of them and know the pain and shame I had each time. On my final day of drinking I became honest with myself about my drinking and accepted the fact I could not drink in safety. I then started doing the suggestions of those sober in the program and have never looked back.
A great benefit of my not drinking is feeling good in my own skin most of the time because I’ve learned to handle the things I drank about.
BE WELL
Forum Leader
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 16,945
Welcome back MS. Meetings seemed to work for you in the past, perhaps finding one today would be a good idea? No sense in mulling over what you cannot change...make a change for the better today.
Member
Join Date: May 2014
Location: Washington, MO
Posts: 2,306
Welcome back! Talk to a doc, get a detox plan together, commit and in a couple weeks we can talk about sober-comfort-foods or anything really--sober stuff. Six months ago yesterday I had 24 hrs. w/out that didn't come without some work and planning. It was my only goal. I did it and have built from there.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: southeastern USA
Posts: 310
Relapses are a part of [ineffective] recovery. Returning to drinking is the ultimate sign of a poor recovery program. In my experience, the return to active drinking was preceded by a thousand little indicators that something was not "ok", but that I chose to ignore. For me, I need to be brutally honest and accountable to another person who cares enough about me to call me on my garbage.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,240
No one during my drinking career ever told me
I had a drinking problem. It was just explained
away with different excuses such as I got
sick because I drank on an empty stomach,
or because I was upset about something,
etc. I could never be an alcoholic or
someone with a drinking problem because
I knew how to control my drinking. I knew
how to stop if I really wanted to. I mean
when I was pregnant I may have had a
sip or 2 but that was it.
I mean, hey, I didn't drink for about 3 or
4 months after I had a bad accident and
didn't want to mix alcohol with the meds
I was on. Shoots, Im cool. I don't have a
drinking problem.
Just as my mom told me, it was all in my
head and I drank for attention.
Well, it took returning to the same club,
driving home under the influence, another
argument with my spouse and enough was
enough. I realized I was a failure and that
i'll show you that i'll get out of your hair
and leave this life once and for all. Then
down a handful of pills with a big gulp of
wine never giving thought as to the consequences
of my actions or how it would affect my family
the next day.
Family intervened on me when I could no
longer help myself and was sent into recovery
via a rehab facility where I chose to stay to
learn about my addiction and it affects on me
an others around me.
As a mom and wife, I didn't want to be sent
away out of state away from my little ones
and begged to stay right where I was till I
completed 28 days then attended a 6 week
aftercare outpatient program.
I did whatever I could and needed to do
all to the best of my ability to keep my
little family together and succeeded.
That was 24 yrs ago as I continue today
given others hope that are struggling with
addiction themselves, that if you listen,
learn, absorb and apply all there is to about
addiction followed up with a program of
recovery to incorporate in your everyday
life, then you too can achieve a healthy,
happy, honest life for many one days at
a time sober or clean down the road.
Of course this is how it has worked for me.
Find a solution of recovery that will be helpful
for you and your addiction.
I had a drinking problem. It was just explained
away with different excuses such as I got
sick because I drank on an empty stomach,
or because I was upset about something,
etc. I could never be an alcoholic or
someone with a drinking problem because
I knew how to control my drinking. I knew
how to stop if I really wanted to. I mean
when I was pregnant I may have had a
sip or 2 but that was it.
I mean, hey, I didn't drink for about 3 or
4 months after I had a bad accident and
didn't want to mix alcohol with the meds
I was on. Shoots, Im cool. I don't have a
drinking problem.
Just as my mom told me, it was all in my
head and I drank for attention.
Well, it took returning to the same club,
driving home under the influence, another
argument with my spouse and enough was
enough. I realized I was a failure and that
i'll show you that i'll get out of your hair
and leave this life once and for all. Then
down a handful of pills with a big gulp of
wine never giving thought as to the consequences
of my actions or how it would affect my family
the next day.
Family intervened on me when I could no
longer help myself and was sent into recovery
via a rehab facility where I chose to stay to
learn about my addiction and it affects on me
an others around me.
As a mom and wife, I didn't want to be sent
away out of state away from my little ones
and begged to stay right where I was till I
completed 28 days then attended a 6 week
aftercare outpatient program.
I did whatever I could and needed to do
all to the best of my ability to keep my
little family together and succeeded.
That was 24 yrs ago as I continue today
given others hope that are struggling with
addiction themselves, that if you listen,
learn, absorb and apply all there is to about
addiction followed up with a program of
recovery to incorporate in your everyday
life, then you too can achieve a healthy,
happy, honest life for many one days at
a time sober or clean down the road.
Of course this is how it has worked for me.
Find a solution of recovery that will be helpful
for you and your addiction.
Member
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 1,323
First off stop drinking...like 10 minutes ago...;(
Then take an honest assessment as to why it happened...What needs to change to keep you from thinking it's an ok idea to drink?
If you're like me, you'll need to find support on a day to day basis.
SR and AA have worked for me so far.
Wish you luck!
Then take an honest assessment as to why it happened...What needs to change to keep you from thinking it's an ok idea to drink?
If you're like me, you'll need to find support on a day to day basis.
SR and AA have worked for me so far.
Wish you luck!
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