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Old 11-06-2014, 07:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My birthday is on Saturday. I got a text from my brother's GF stating that he feels badly for what he has put me thru...blah, blah, blah. He wants to know if it is OK if he calls me on my b-day.

I am multi-emotional (new word I made up). I need the clear headed advice of the forum.

yay or nay?
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:14 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Text him that a text on your birthday would be fine.
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:15 PM   #3 (permalink)
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That is totally your choice.
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:16 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Don't really know what the situation was. However, and especially in recovery, I would side with talking things out, rather than keeping resentments alive and growing. Great things can come from it.
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:16 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I missed what he put you through.
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:31 PM   #6 (permalink)
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You already know the answer AF

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The GF and my brother and my niece all set me off in a big way. Major trigger.
I don't want to start drinking again.

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I am learning (and with the help of SR) that you MUST let go and take care of yourself. It sounds selfish, but you cannot help someone bent on self destruction. They will take you down with them, no ifs ands or buts.
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:33 PM   #7 (permalink)
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ArtFriend, is this the same brother who asked to move in with you????
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Multi-emotional.....I think we should talk to Mr. Webster himself about recommending this new word to the dictionary!


Ms. Webster, you never know now a days lol
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it they're toxic people for you, then no amount of preparation can keep you from being hurt, because......they're toxic, poison. Take heed, dear AF.
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ArtFriend, is this the same brother who asked to move in with you????
Yes...the same one!
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:39 PM   #11 (permalink)
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ArtFan - good advice from Dee!

Do some dancing on your B-day and don't worry about others........

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You already know the answer AF

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Yes...the same one!
I feel terrible for being so suspicious but I think he may be trying to get in through the back door.
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Old 11-06-2014, 07:55 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I feel terrible for being so suspicious but I think he may be trying to get in through the back door.
I think you are right Leigh. I hadn't thought about it like that but it makes sense. I haven't responded, but I think I will decline the "fake" offer. Thanks!!
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ArtFan - good advice from Dee!

Do some dancing on your B-day and don't worry about others........

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That little critter looks like Squarepants SpongeBob with a bow on his head. But I appreciate the gesture lol!
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That little critter looks like Squarepants SpongeBob with a bow on his head. But I appreciate the gesture lol!
pretty much dancing capabilities!
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