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11-06-2014, 06:11 PM

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ArtFriend

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Aw, crap

My birthday is on Saturday. I got a text from my brother's GF stating that he feels badly for what he has put me thru...blah, blah, blah. He wants to know if it is OK if he calls me on my b-day.

I am multi-emotional (new word I made up). I need the clear headed advice of the forum.

yay or nay?

11-06-2014, 06:14 PM

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HappyBlue

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Text him that a text on your birthday would be fine.

11-06-2014, 06:15 PM

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trachemys

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That is totally your choice.

11-06-2014, 06:16 PM

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Billymac75

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Don't really know what the situation was. However, and especially in recovery, I would side with talking things out, rather than keeping resentments alive and growing. Great things can come from it.

11-06-2014, 06:16 PM

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silentrun

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I missed what he put you through.

11-06-2014, 06:31 PM

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Dee74

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You already know the answer AF

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The GF and my brother and my niece all set me off in a big way. Major trigger.
I don't want to start drinking again.

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I am learning (and with the help of SR) that you MUST let go and take care of yourself. It sounds selfish, but you cannot help someone bent on self destruction. They will take you down with them, no ifs ands or buts.

11-06-2014, 06:33 PM

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SoberLeigh

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ArtFriend, is this the same brother who asked to move in with you????

11-06-2014, 06:34 PM

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airwick

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Multi-emotional.....I think we should talk to Mr. Webster himself about recommending this new word to the dictionary!

Ms. Webster, you never know now a days lol

11-06-2014, 06:37 PM

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Inchworm

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it they're toxic people for you, then no amount of preparation can keep you from being hurt, because......they're toxic, poison. Take heed, dear AF.

11-06-2014, 06:38 PM

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ArtFriend

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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh

ArtFriend, is this the same brother who asked to move in with you????

Yes...the same one!

11-06-2014, 06:39 PM

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Fly N Buy

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ArtFan - good advice from Dee!

Do some dancing on your B-day and don't worry about others........

11-06-2014, 06:40 PM

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You already know the answer AF

Dee... you are like a point of light in the darkness. Thank you!

11-06-2014, 06:40 PM

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ArtFriend

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What is that Fly?

11-06-2014, 06:43 PM

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SoberLeigh

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Yes...the same one!

I feel terrible for being so suspicious but I think he may be trying to get in through the back door.

11-06-2014, 06:55 PM

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ArtFriend

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I feel terrible for being so suspicious but I think he may be trying to get in through the back door.

I think you are right Leigh. I hadn't thought about it like that but it makes sense. I haven't responded, but I think I will decline the "fake" offer. Thanks!!