ontherightpath

Well, my husband has basically said that we have problems that can't be solved and instead of hearing me say I'm done, he wants me to do something about it.

I went to the liquor store and bought wine.

I left it in the fridge and didn't open it.

I'm at the church right now. Family night with my daughter and her friend. Been praying for extra strength to not open it when I get home.

God grant me the serenity......

least

I hope you don't open it. There's no situation so bad that drinking can't make it worse.

sugarbear1

get rid of it. you CAN do this!

ontherightpath

Me too least. Trying to remember that.

I am not sure if I want to remain married and I'm very upset that we are revisiting this situation. Last October we were right where we are now.

Dee74

Dump the wine OTRP.

Make today you do something - not because your husband wants you to but because you want to.

Big decisions can wait - they're best made on sober minds.

No one wants to be that person crying into their drinks knowing it's making things worse.

You have support here. You have a few tools - you can find and use some more.

Make a different decision today.

D

ontherightpath

Well, as I said I haven't opened it, and I am not home right now. That has to mean something. I'll keep u updated.

ontherightpath

Haha, just walked into the church for their family outing and the theme for tonight is endurance: sticking with what you started even when it gets tough.

I'll take that as a sign

forabetterlife

I believe in signs ontherightpath, and that sure seems like one. Use it to keep you strong. You know that drowning your sorrows and worries is just a dramatic cliche and really just perpetuates whatever pain you are feeling. We are here for you. Think of how you will feel tomorrow knowing you made it through another test.

ontherightpath

I'm home, wine gone. I didn't drink it. I was touched tonight. Pray for a sign and it slaps you in the face. Thank you sr! And thank god I have FAITH in something bigger than myself, or I would be 3 sheets to the wind by now!

waterscapes

I quit drinking right before thanksgiving. I was in an inpatient facility voluntarily for a bit and then an IOP program for 2 months. I have 3 siblings ( we are all adults with our own families except for my sister..) she lives near me as the others are out of state. I found out kind of by accident last night that all of my siblings are in Nevada this weekend for my brother's kids baptism. I did not know about this until last night ..in other words..I was not invited to it. I confronted my brother last night on the phone and he said "you have been going through so much I decided this would be asking to much of you to come." What??? How would he even know what I have been going through?...I haven't had a conversation with him since before the holidays! They seem to treat me like a leper now that I have admitted my drinking problem. I am just so hurt that I was not included in this or given the opportunity to decide for myself if it was "too much" for me to attend. Why couldn't have they asked me first before they planned this behind my back? My brothers, sister and I haven't been together for almost 4 years when our dad passed away. Now they are all there, and I am here...just feeling hurt.

Amazingglazier

Glad you made that sober decision tonight, hope things get easier for you! But we all know that drinking won't help a bit! Stay Strong and Well ! Bobby

ontherightpath

So, it's Sunday morning, and I woke up sober!!!! When I first woke up, I was a bit frightened, like I had drank, but I didn't! To not drink last night thru that trigger was a huge moment!

coming_clean

the wine and marriage-problems are two seperate problems.
Addiction tends to blur problems into one big mess.

solving the drink won't solve the marriage
solving the marriage won't solve the drink

However.
adressing the addiction + getting sober should be the nr. 1 priority

good luck and all the best

ontherightpath

I'm aware of that. Thanks.
This is also an issue of the husbands addiction as well. He chooses not to address it. I choose to set boundaries.

This post was me being real. Having a craving. Reaching out before I take the first drink. Something I don't do often. But nothing changes if nothing changes.

coming_clean

from my own experience.
If I don't act; life will decide for me.
And those outcomes are always worst-case scenario's.

Ive been in two addictive relationships.
Both almost destroyed me, and cost me jobs, housing, sanity, money,

Very good that you reached out and you did not take that first, or last, drink!