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I here's my second attempt at being sober, after six weeks clean I went on a three week drinking wine every night binge. I'm tired and over it. I could really use some encouragement right now this is day one for me. I'll be checking in and out thanks guys!
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Welcome back Christi. Keep trying and you will find something that works for you eventually. What kind of program/plan did you use the first time around? See what you can do differently this time.
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Welcome back christimc!
You can go back and build on the 6 weeks you had. If you did 6 weeks you can do this again, try to learn from the fallback and jump back on the wagon and move forward.
You can go back and build on the 6 weeks you had. If you did 6 weeks you can do this again, try to learn from the fallback and jump back on the wagon and move forward.
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Midwest
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welcome again, that is what you will see every time you come back! Ain't that sweet? Anyway, if you look at why you took the three week bender, you can learn something from it.
Personally, frustration was a huge trigger for me in the beginning. I had to shelter myself from people places and things that got me craving...
Also, I learned about H A L T S. HUNGER, ANGER, LONELY, TIRED AND SICK/STRESSED. All these things change my perception of the world around me and I can't think clearly under their influences. That led to frustration and then the EF its. Then that naturally led me to wanting to drown my sorrows...
Watch out for these conditions and take care of yourself!
Keep coming back!
Personally, frustration was a huge trigger for me in the beginning. I had to shelter myself from people places and things that got me craving...
Also, I learned about H A L T S. HUNGER, ANGER, LONELY, TIRED AND SICK/STRESSED. All these things change my perception of the world around me and I can't think clearly under their influences. That led to frustration and then the EF its. Then that naturally led me to wanting to drown my sorrows...
Watch out for these conditions and take care of yourself!
Keep coming back!
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Virginia
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Christimc, I have had my share of quits and starts too. Something that has helped me is journaling. I have a little book and I write down feelings, quotes, things from here etc. When I feel like I have to drink I pull it out and read how awesome it was waking up the other morning and remembering, or how it felt to just fall asleep instead of passing out. I keep it with me at all times. I am still trying to find the "me" that I once knew but this seems to help me locate her a little quicker.
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Glad you are back, never give up. SR has helped me stay sober this time. I thought I was a hopeless case, but no one is. Make not taking the first drink a priority. If you don't take the first sip, you will save yourself a lot of pain.
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Only to think about what happened before you drank again - think of what othwer things you might have done rather than decide to drink.
I think a good recovery rests on the bases of support - finding the right kind, and using it - and making changes in your life that reflect your commitment to sobriety
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I think a good recovery rests on the bases of support - finding the right kind, and using it - and making changes in your life that reflect your commitment to sobriety
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Join Date: Sep 2013
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suggestion for early recovery:
Beware of the first drink. That is the one to avoid.
Beware of emotions. Anger frustration sadness and happiness. I used all of these as excuses to drink. And not knowing how to deal with my emotions made them triggers TO drink and I drank to cope with those emotions...
Start a journal. Writing down the things on your mind help get it out and helps put things in perspective. It also helps release pent up feelings giving you some relief.
Take special care of yourself. If you are hungry, eat. Being hungry makes us irritable and that is NOT a good place to be.
If you are angry, talk to someone about it and get it out. Pray for release from anger, it is the root of resentments which are the worst thing of all for us.
If you are lonely, connect with other people either by phone in person or online.
If you are tired, REST. Being tired makes us irritable too!
If you are sick or stressed, take good care of yourself.
Most of all, take care of today.
ONE DAY AT A TIME
Beware of the first drink. That is the one to avoid.
Beware of emotions. Anger frustration sadness and happiness. I used all of these as excuses to drink. And not knowing how to deal with my emotions made them triggers TO drink and I drank to cope with those emotions...
Start a journal. Writing down the things on your mind help get it out and helps put things in perspective. It also helps release pent up feelings giving you some relief.
Take special care of yourself. If you are hungry, eat. Being hungry makes us irritable and that is NOT a good place to be.
If you are angry, talk to someone about it and get it out. Pray for release from anger, it is the root of resentments which are the worst thing of all for us.
If you are lonely, connect with other people either by phone in person or online.
If you are tired, REST. Being tired makes us irritable too!
If you are sick or stressed, take good care of yourself.
Most of all, take care of today.
ONE DAY AT A TIME
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