Mirage74

Whenever I get a few days sober I become aware of how much anger and resentment I have. I think one of the main reason I drink is that it melts the anger, the pain, away. I've never learned how to properly deal with anger. I let it build and build and keep it all in, especially around certain people. That's how I was raised. If I got angry and expressed it, I got scolded and into trouble. Anger and resentment are my biggest triggers because I internalize them and don't know how to deal with them.

I hear all this talk about letting go of anger and resentment and I just don't get it. I have a hard time letting go. I've got to find a healthier way to deal with this.

Kaneda8888

Mirage

Do you have a recovery programme ? Simply staying sober is tough without addressing the underlying reasons for the addiction. Have you tried AA at all ?

Mirage74

I am giving AA another chance. I know this is dealt with in the 4th step. I just have a couple I need to address soon. Sometimes people in my life just make me smh.

LeaRachel

I am currently doing my 4th step and it was amazing where some of my issues come from, and it wasnt until I sat down to really think about it that they came to the surface.

Now like you I need to figure out what to do with the anger. I agree drinking does take all that from reaching the surface. Hang in there

Dee74

Hi Mirage

I wouldn't want anyone to think I just woke up one day the peaceful happy bloke I am.
It took work.

The first step is to get sober and stay that way. That gives you a little consistency and lets you work out who sober you is.

Then you can start working on the things in you that you want to work on.

It took me many months to work out how to deal with my anger and resentment - I realised if I didn't, I'd always be chained to the past.

A little counselling helped kick start me. Would you consider that?

D