philquad

hi guys, i'm new of course
i went to the ibs forum 1st but they kicked me out?
said i was full of it, so now you got me.
i'm not going to winge, i know im a drunk (alco's actually go to meetings)
but ive had enough, 18- 45, geez i havn't missed many days in that.
except where i spent 10 months in hospital with a broken neck
then i get to rehab, what are they all doing? drinking & smoking pot.
i love the stuff, beer only now (got smart after the last jd stint yrs ago)
but i find i cant just have a few, it turn into 8 or 10, daily
not good for a quad, lately my stomach has been upset several times in a few weeks, you know what that means, umm
but, Day 3 i feel good, i know i sleep a lot better without it, & hopefully my intestines will forgive me soon
then just maybe, i will learn control of my drinking (but i want to still)
but im serious this time, even though my brother sits there every night & has his fill, im using reverse psychology, he must feel sick too,im healthier
so chin up ol boy, one day at a time hey

phil

Dee74

Hi and welcome Phil

I certainly don't miss the intestinal upsets beer and cheap goon wine used to give me.

I wish you luck on the control thing I guess...I tried for 20 years and finally admitted I had no control - if I had one glass I wanted 25.

My life a whole lot better since I decided that

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least

Welcome to the family. I'm glad you're here.

philquad

thanks guys
i think im just a little scared
scared of the thought of going out to dinner or the pub & not drinking?
what will i do there? drink water lol
was 18 last time i remember staying sober to go out (only for the girls of course)

advbike

Well, at first it's easier to avoid places that have temptations. I was a beer and wine drinker also, so I didn't go to the old places for the first month or two. When I did I just told people I wasn't drinking. It gets easier after a few months. Went into one of my favorite restaurants the other evening, the owner knows me and asked if I wanted to sit at the bar. I said sure, then she asked if I wanted a glass of wine. I said "nope, still not drinking, ha ha". She was surprised to hear it was 4 1/2 months. She is a drinker too and you can tell some of these folks are wondering about it themselves.

ReadyAndAble

Hey, Phil, welcome to SR! I think I was on Day 2 or 3 when I discovered this site; you sure have come to the right place. It was incredible for me to realize so many people had experienced the same thing, and managed to break free of it.

I thought exactly the same thing! Heck, forget restaurants and pubs... I couldn't imagine doing chores around the house without a six-pack on hand, lol... Guess what? It turns out all those fears were just part of the addiction, the big illusion that kept me trapped far too long. I thought drinking helped me relax after work; now I see it was the reason I was exhausted and stressed. I thought I needed it to celebrate the good times; turns out I have a lot more fun now that I'm not obsessing over drinks past, present, and future. (Who knew, right?) I thought I needed alcohol to handle the bad times—and that's the biggest surprise of all for me, that even bad times are easier. More manageable, anyway. Just over a year ago, my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He passed in November. It was not an easy time, but I can't tell you how grateful I was to be sober through it. To be dealing with it, and helping others deal with it, not just hiding from it.

I thought quitting would be a huge sacrifice, a cross to bear. But in reality it's this great source of strength. You'll see. It's a big adjustment to make, but you're going to be really, really glad you made the effort.

philquad

thanks for the words, but im not there yet, i know
i think i had 2 days off about a month ago, yep this was the go, i fell back in the 6 pack & been there everday since.
ive got good excuses though
im cripple, no life, cant do nothing ect ect
so i can drink right? sounds good
at this stage id be happy just to get my system right, the last few days have been hell
sadly, its the main reason im giving it a rest, but hopefully i'll learn something along the way

KateL

Welcome. I widh you luck but I found it impossible to moderate xxxx

Dee74

I'm not a quad but I'm a 'crip' too
I have cerebral palsy - I use a stick to get around.

You better believe I rode the 'if you had my life you'd drink too' train for as long as I could get away with it.

The trouble is, the older I got the less I got away with it.

I only ever drank beer and cheap wine, but I drank more and more often - I ended up an all day everyday drinker.
I nearly died.

The funny thing is the more years sober I get the better my life gets - things haven't changed in any material way, but my attitude about life sure has...

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PurpleKnight

Welcome to the Forum Phil!!