What do you do when your family needs you but they could drive you to relap
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What do you do when your family needs you but they could drive you to relap
Im torn my family ** my mom and dad } asked for me to come back home and help take care of my grandma and grandpa ** grandma has alzhimers...grandpa has cancer and is going to have a major surgery }...I said I couldn't I was doing good , working AA going to meetings and going back home and to that invorment I would be propelled backwords all I could see is all the work I had done on myself become unraveled.I got an email this morning my grandmother passed away the night before I felt so much remorse in not going back that im now considering going and helping with my grandfather who now has some cracked ribs, is dealing with the loss of his wife, and is going to have a major surgery to remove the cancer in 2 or 3 weeks...what the hell am I suppost to do with this. I feel like if I don't go im letting my family down when they each had a hand in raising me. Yet going back could be a disaster. I keep saying the serenity prayer on repeat but my head wont shut the hell up! 
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(((((((notfixable))))))) I am so sorry for your loss. Are you parents not supportive of your sobriety? Are they alcoholics/addicts? If you really feel that you can't go back, is there something you can do to help the situation? Could you afford to help pay for a caregiver or look into free services available to help them? Could you stay in a hotel and only go over to help your grandfather a few hours of the day (at times when drinking would be less prevalent)? Could a sober friend or family member go with you to help support you? I am sorry, without knowing more about the situation it is hard to know what is right. It is good to pray. Sometimes God lays the answer right on our hearts when we calm down and truly give it to Him. Please take care.
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I think Double has some great suggestions.
I know you've had a real struggle with family and with staying sober.
If you feel that you're not up to caregiving and being around relatives and it might drive you to drink, maybe you could contribute financially for some care, or help?
D
I know you've had a real struggle with family and with staying sober.
If you feel that you're not up to caregiving and being around relatives and it might drive you to drink, maybe you could contribute financially for some care, or help?
D
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