Husband relapsed
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Husband relapsed
I feel so betrayed.
We had 5 months under our belt. We have a 2-month-old daughter together. I thought this was over. I really did. I dared to hope.
Last night he "stayed late" at work and came home reeking of booze. Denied and denied and said he had been dipping (he chews tobacco and does have terrible acid reflux so I thought "maybe").
Tonight I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn't home. I just knew. Had to tell him I called his place of work (I didn't) before he would admit where he was and what he had been doing.
I am furious and heartbroken and don't now where to go from here. I'm going to stick around this time, but I have my daughter to protect now and I don't know if I can keep doing this...
We had 5 months under our belt. We have a 2-month-old daughter together. I thought this was over. I really did. I dared to hope.
Last night he "stayed late" at work and came home reeking of booze. Denied and denied and said he had been dipping (he chews tobacco and does have terrible acid reflux so I thought "maybe").
Tonight I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn't home. I just knew. Had to tell him I called his place of work (I didn't) before he would admit where he was and what he had been doing.
I am furious and heartbroken and don't now where to go from here. I'm going to stick around this time, but I have my daughter to protect now and I don't know if I can keep doing this...
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ilyynh, welcome to SR, you'll find lots of support and encouragement here.
because of alcohol, we disappoint people we really love..
have you talked to him about the relapse?
you may also want to check out friends & family of alcoholics:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
you also may find help and encouragement going to alanon
(for family/friends of alcoholics) http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
let us know how it is going...hang in there.
because of alcohol, we disappoint people we really love..
have you talked to him about the relapse?
you may also want to check out friends & family of alcoholics:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
you also may find help and encouragement going to alanon
(for family/friends of alcoholics) http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
let us know how it is going...hang in there.
to SR! I'm sorry your husband relapsed. Can you have a heart to heart talk with him about it? 
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Thank you for the support. I just woke up. He spent the night at a friend's house. He called to say he was on his way.
While I'm glad I feel like I "caught" him early on in the slide this time, it is so hard to start over. Have to take off his sobriety milestones from the calendar.
I freaked out and called his parents, brother, and my sister in law last night.
Four hours until he goes to work again, so I'm going to try to talk to him. I'm in a better state of mind after getting some sleep, but still afraid of losing it on him. I really thought out having a beautiful, perfect baby would be "enough" for him. He's bed doing so well and we moved closer to his family, he's holding down a good job, not hanging out with his old friends (or so I thought, now I'm questioning everything).
The road ahead looks so long...
While I'm glad I feel like I "caught" him early on in the slide this time, it is so hard to start over. Have to take off his sobriety milestones from the calendar.
I freaked out and called his parents, brother, and my sister in law last night.
Four hours until he goes to work again, so I'm going to try to talk to him. I'm in a better state of mind after getting some sleep, but still afraid of losing it on him. I really thought out having a beautiful, perfect baby would be "enough" for him. He's bed doing so well and we moved closer to his family, he's holding down a good job, not hanging out with his old friends (or so I thought, now I'm questioning everything).
The road ahead looks so long...
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