StressedMum

Hi guys, I'm new and don't know what to do x

LSC1

WElcome to SR .. You have found a very supportive place. Would you like to share what is concerning you ?

phoenix299

Hello and welcome! You made the decision to come here and say Hi so I'd say you've taken the first step :o)

What's your situation? How can we help?

SnoozyQ

Hi love , you have started right , just do a bit of browsing and navigate around to get familiar with this site.
So glad you have joined us , you will find a lot of support and lovely people here .
You have done the right thing

Welcome :-) xxx

AugustWest11

Welcome; and I am sure if you open up a little to what is going on you will find tonz of great people and support .. Along w\ a wealth of information

Mentium

I Stressed! Welcome..sent you a PM as discussed elswhere..

ReadyAtLast

Welcome to SR. If you want to share more info about what isconcerning you people will be able to help and advise.

This is a great site and is a tremendous source of support andstrength for me,hopefully for you too

happyhour

hi mum, welcome to SR! lots of great information and support here, what's making you "stressed" mum, instead of just mum?

StressedMum

Wow - thanks for the nice replies. I didn't even realize I had them.

Yes I meant I wasn't sure what to do regarding this site, but I will keep at it and I'll get there.

As for the sobriety, that is an overwhelming thought and I can only think in the here and now. Drink and drugs and any buzz I can get addicted to, have been such a huge part of my life for over 20 yrs, that to imagine not having them there feels like someone has died - and I'm sorry to say that. Is it normal to "grieve" for your addictions?

StressedMum

I think the "stress" has been my excuse to let my hair down as often as possible. But in reality, I know the partying causes the stress x

joygirl

Oh my gosh, stressedmum, absolutely you can/will grieve over your addictions. It's been a huge part of your life. I certainly did. It's okay, you came to the right place!

Toomutch

Welcome, I think it is completely normal to grieve an addiction when you have centered your life around it.

tgirl

Yes, you can 'grieve' for the girl that was, and now rejoice for the woman you will become!

happyhour

yes, you will grieve. but, it is grieving over the loss of a sick relationship that was destructive. seems like we should feel immediate relief ("good riddance"), but for some reason (mostly fear) there is grief, loss, and uncertainty, but just for short time period - then the world starts to open back up and you begin again to see possibilities.

glad you are here, keep posting, lots of people have similar experiences to you.

joygirl

It's like a breakup with a boyfriend. The worst boyfriend ever. And be ready, because he's going to be stalking you sometimes, trying to seduce you back. That b*st*rd.
Go get some 6" stilettos for the butt kicking you're going to do!

AugustWest11

No need to feel sorry; I can't speak for everyone but as you have seen by the response most of us feel that way .. I myself have been Drug\wasted\Buzzed for more then half my life (29years & I am 42) So Yea I am only on day 13 and in away I have felt like I lost a "friend" but seeing as where my "friend" has brought me in life; I think it is time we part ways .. lol The question now is findong ways to fill the "void" that has left behind .. I myself been reading again more; picking up old hobbies I let go past the wayside and trying to discover new ones & if you dig through the post you will see I have had a tough time; but I keep and plan to keep plugging away cause I know for me; like I said yesterday, I am 1 Beer away from my rock bottom and I don't wanna be there .. I have seen glimpses of it and it's not a pretty sight .. I do as well post here often to stave off cravings and negative thoughts when I can ..

Mizzuno

I think grieving is a part of the process. Welcome to SR!

hayley86

Welcome, lots of support here. Glad you have joined us.

least

to SR! I'm glad you joined us.

firstymer

Welcome to SR, StressedMum. Good luck on this challenging but very, very rewarding, journey. I am glad you are here with us.