If I quit now, my kids won't remember
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If I quit now, my kids won't remember
Hi Everyone!
I don't know what to say or where to start, but I wanted to say thank you for all the stories that people are sharing. It has really helped me gain some perspective and feel less alone.
Right now I am about 2 weeks sober and it is pretty satisfying. Yes, I am lethargic and unmotivated, but I have been sleeping well and am sober!
I don't know what to say or where to start, but I wanted to say thank you for all the stories that people are sharing. It has really helped me gain some perspective and feel less alone.
Right now I am about 2 weeks sober and it is pretty satisfying. Yes, I am lethargic and unmotivated, but I have been sleeping well and am sober!
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Welcome Hera.
I was just having some thoughts along the same lines. Posted about it in the September thread. They might remember me liking wine, but not really being drunk or drinking daily and to excess as much as I did. It is a strong motivator. We set the example for their drug and alcohol use, never mind the bad genetic lot they inherit and the emotional issues with it.
I was just having some thoughts along the same lines. Posted about it in the September thread. They might remember me liking wine, but not really being drunk or drinking daily and to excess as much as I did. It is a strong motivator. We set the example for their drug and alcohol use, never mind the bad genetic lot they inherit and the emotional issues with it.
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Well done Hera 
I can remember for years saying to myself , right when she is 7 i will give up cos she wont remember ...
oh yeh
they remember alright,
she is 21 and never lets me 4 get...i would love to go back and try again
Xxxx
I can remember for years saying to myself , right when she is 7 i will give up cos she wont remember ...
oh yeh
they remember alright,
she is 21 and never lets me 4 get...i would love to go back and try again
Xxxx
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Thank you guys! I appreciate the support
rochele- I can't find the September 2013 thread...
SnoozyQ- I don't know if I am fooling myself or not. It doesn't matter. My oldest is 9 and she made a comment in August about us going to the liquor store every other day. My father was an alcoholic. I say he was, not because he stopped, but because he died. So, I guess he stopped, just not by choice
Anyway, I remember as a young child he would pick us up from daycare and on the way home would stop at the liquor store every night. That was enough for me. If, I don't want my kids to have an alcoholic parent, I have to stop.
Unless something happens and it is relevant to share, I probably won't say anything to them about my drinking.
rochele- I can't find the September 2013 thread...
SnoozyQ- I don't know if I am fooling myself or not. It doesn't matter. My oldest is 9 and she made a comment in August about us going to the liquor store every other day. My father was an alcoholic. I say he was, not because he stopped, but because he died. So, I guess he stopped, just not by choice
Anyway, I remember as a young child he would pick us up from daycare and on the way home would stop at the liquor store every night. That was enough for me. If, I don't want my kids to have an alcoholic parent, I have to stop. Unless something happens and it is relevant to share, I probably won't say anything to them about my drinking.
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Hera, If you scroll down the topics on this page, you will see Class of September. Here is a link:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-4-a-8.html
If you quit in September, you are a member of September class. feel free to come on in and post. It gives you a group at the same point on the journey to sobriety. But posting your won thread here like you did is good too. You then will get comments from many here with all differing time sober. Wisdom in that! Also gets you quick support if you have a need.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-4-a-8.html
If you quit in September, you are a member of September class. feel free to come on in and post. It gives you a group at the same point on the journey to sobriety. But posting your won thread here like you did is good too. You then will get comments from many here with all differing time sober. Wisdom in that! Also gets you quick support if you have a need.
Hera and congratulations on one of the best decisions you'll ever make!
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Oops that came out wrong , I'm tired ...but needing my SR fix ....
Im sorry to say i didn't give up b4 now .
My girls are now 16. 20 and 21 .
Dont let getting sick from alcohol force your hand Hera
You be the one to tell alcohol
Xxxx
Im sorry to say i didn't give up b4 now .
My girls are now 16. 20 and 21 .
Dont let getting sick from alcohol force your hand Hera
You be the one to tell alcohol
Xxxx
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The biggest regret I have is not quitting when my four kids were little. Now they are all adults and moved out and I know my drunken days effected them immensely. Fortunately, they all turned out very well and none of them have addiction issues (they range in age from 24 to 35)
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Not too long ago I heard my 6 year old telling his sitter that he hated alcohol. "I think bad guys invented it," he told her.
I too take solace and strength in knowing my kid is going to know a strong, clear headed, sober father.
Welcome and thank you for the thoughts.
I too take solace and strength in knowing my kid is going to know a strong, clear headed, sober father.
Welcome and thank you for the thoughts.
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