Guilt
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Posts: 16
Good Morning Stubbs. I'm only at 1 week (as of 11pm tonight!) but the lack of energy and motivation hit me hard, I expected to have bundles of energy straight away. I imagine your wife wants you to quit drinking, have you had chats about all the positivity it will bring once you manage to kick the habit? The ways you can share all the time and money you'll reclaim by not drinking? What you are both going through now will be a small price to pay in the long run and you'll both be rewarded for your perseverance. Hang in there buddy.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
I too went years upon years so frustrated,
aggrivated and just so worn down and out
trying to explain my sobriety and recovery
to my family that I cried and yelled to the
heavens for help and understanding.
I learned in early recovery that when one
person in the family is sick then the entire
family is infected by this sickness. That is
why there are quite a few recovery programs
available to the entire family for the asking
and taking.
In my situation, my little family saw no need
for help as they were not the sick ones in the
family and thus went on their own agendas in
life with school, work never skipping a beat
leaving me to fend for myself with lack of
understanding and communication.
Because I was the one in recovery, it was
and is my own responsibility to do whatever
I needed to do to stay sober, even sadly if
the rest of the family didn't agree or understand
the importance of my actions.
As a selfish alcoholic in recovery, I learned to
take care of me in recovery living and incorperating
the tools and knowledge of a program of recovery
in my everyday life. Sure, for an alcoholic, it does
take time, takes a minute, even a second at a time,
somedays just to not want to pick up a drink. Poison
that would only make matters in life worse.
While living and learning to remain sober each
day, I also did my motherly and wifely duties all
to the best of my ability. I also learned that I
didn't have to take on the world or family duties
all in one day. All I had and have to do is complete
at least one thing to the best of my ability for
accompliment. At least one thing, even if it meant
not drinking that day. That in itself for an alcoholic
in recovery is a HUGE ACCOMPLISHMENT, even
if no one else understand that concept.
For me today, if I make my bed or carry the
garbage out, or cut the grass, or exercised or
eat a healthy meal or come here to SR and
shared my own ESH - experiences, strengths
and hopes with others struggling with addiction,
then that one thing is just enough to feel like I
accomplished something today.
You can too..!!
aggrivated and just so worn down and out
trying to explain my sobriety and recovery
to my family that I cried and yelled to the
heavens for help and understanding.
I learned in early recovery that when one
person in the family is sick then the entire
family is infected by this sickness. That is
why there are quite a few recovery programs
available to the entire family for the asking
and taking.
In my situation, my little family saw no need
for help as they were not the sick ones in the
family and thus went on their own agendas in
life with school, work never skipping a beat
leaving me to fend for myself with lack of
understanding and communication.
Because I was the one in recovery, it was
and is my own responsibility to do whatever
I needed to do to stay sober, even sadly if
the rest of the family didn't agree or understand
the importance of my actions.
As a selfish alcoholic in recovery, I learned to
take care of me in recovery living and incorperating
the tools and knowledge of a program of recovery
in my everyday life. Sure, for an alcoholic, it does
take time, takes a minute, even a second at a time,
somedays just to not want to pick up a drink. Poison
that would only make matters in life worse.
While living and learning to remain sober each
day, I also did my motherly and wifely duties all
to the best of my ability. I also learned that I
didn't have to take on the world or family duties
all in one day. All I had and have to do is complete
at least one thing to the best of my ability for
accompliment. At least one thing, even if it meant
not drinking that day. That in itself for an alcoholic
in recovery is a HUGE ACCOMPLISHMENT, even
if no one else understand that concept.
For me today, if I make my bed or carry the
garbage out, or cut the grass, or exercised or
eat a healthy meal or come here to SR and
shared my own ESH - experiences, strengths
and hopes with others struggling with addiction,
then that one thing is just enough to feel like I
accomplished something today.
You can too..!!
Sober since 10th April 2012
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Perth, Western Australia
Posts: 6,047
Stubbs, I have a permanent case of lack of motivation and I've developed a few tricks to get moving that might work for you. One is to set the timer on the microwave and give myself say 10 minutes to finish a task. I always make it a real challenge to get finished in time and that makes me rush through it. If you're not up for large jobs, try dividing them into smaller steps.
Even though you're going through a tough time, if you can get a few small things done you will feel better, and your wife will at least know you're making an effort.
Even though you're going through a tough time, if you can get a few small things done you will feel better, and your wife will at least know you're making an effort.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: indiana
Posts: 214
Originally Posted by Nighthawk8820 
How long have you been sober? At the start, you will have mood swings and days where you are just plain tired. Your body has SO much work to do in healing the damage you have caused, those house chores can wait. Take it easy on yourself and limit your stress level as much as you can. This is a delicate time. Dont live in your head, as your mind will play tricks and be all over the place. Dont place too much emphasis on your thoughts, except the commitment to stay sober. Everything you think and feel will pass.
I'm at 22 days nighthawk,
I keep telling myself it is still early in recovery but man does it get old at times.Im going to find my wife some articles to read on how the body and mind need to recoup after one stops drinking.She wants me sober just as much as I do.Just hope this depression and no ambition thing doesn't last to long not sure how long I can take it without a relapse
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