Reaching out for support, very scared.
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Reaching out for support, very scared.
Hello,
My husband has relapsed. He emptied our bank accounts. He has been lying to me about his use of amphetamines for months. He is about two and a half weeks sober and is attending NA, AA, SA...he has a huge support group and is really working hard. He is really taking his recovery seriously and has so much support.
Why am I so terrified? I feel like our life has come unraveled. I feel either paralyzed by this fear or in a sort of stop-and-go traffic mode, where I can operate normally for a little while and then freeze up again, and on and on.
I have attended three Al-Anon meetings and feel like I have been given some sort of life serum, which has "un-paralyzed" me in some ways, for some amounts of time, here and there, but the fear keeps coming back. I have really strong anxiety to begin with and was raised by a severe alcoholic and a severe workaholic, so...I feel like how I am is pretty ingrained in me.
I am going to buy some Al-Anon literature. I would love to attend meetings every day, but we share a vehicle and I work, he's in law school, etc...
I need some support for those times that I am here, my stomach churning, my mind full of conflict and PANIC.
Thank you. I'm glad I found you.
-liebetoujours
My husband has relapsed. He emptied our bank accounts. He has been lying to me about his use of amphetamines for months. He is about two and a half weeks sober and is attending NA, AA, SA...he has a huge support group and is really working hard. He is really taking his recovery seriously and has so much support.
Why am I so terrified? I feel like our life has come unraveled. I feel either paralyzed by this fear or in a sort of stop-and-go traffic mode, where I can operate normally for a little while and then freeze up again, and on and on.
I have attended three Al-Anon meetings and feel like I have been given some sort of life serum, which has "un-paralyzed" me in some ways, for some amounts of time, here and there, but the fear keeps coming back. I have really strong anxiety to begin with and was raised by a severe alcoholic and a severe workaholic, so...I feel like how I am is pretty ingrained in me.
I am going to buy some Al-Anon literature. I would love to attend meetings every day, but we share a vehicle and I work, he's in law school, etc...
I need some support for those times that I am here, my stomach churning, my mind full of conflict and PANIC.
Thank you. I'm glad I found you.
-liebetoujours
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The Al-Anon folks will get you squared away. The Serenity Prayer will make sense.
I don't know how long your husband has been a alcoholic/addict nor when the bank got cleaned out in respect to his going to AA/NA but your fear may be well founded.
Get your rear-end covered re: finances with the help of Al-Anon and set some rules in place to protect yourself.
Al-Anon has the same 12 Steps as AA/NA so you two will become stronger/ saner together.
I wish you the best.
Bob R
I don't know how long your husband has been a alcoholic/addict nor when the bank got cleaned out in respect to his going to AA/NA but your fear may be well founded.
Get your rear-end covered re: finances with the help of Al-Anon and set some rules in place to protect yourself.
Al-Anon has the same 12 Steps as AA/NA so you two will become stronger/ saner together.
I wish you the best.
Bob R
I'm glad you found us too.
You'll find a lot of support here. 
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Originally Posted by trachemys 
There's a Al-Anon like forum here for you. And there's always someone here 24/7/365. Welcome to the lifeboat.
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Al-Anon is certainly tops! Like AA it's a one day at a time program and we get more out of it than most put into it. It's where many of us first hear the truth about ourselves and our situations. Some can't/won't handle it well unless we keep coming. BE WELL
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Hi Friends,
Things are improving. My husband started IOP, sort of like sobriety bootcamp. I attend one night a week for three hours of family night. I am trying to remain strong and grounded. Any tips on how to do this?
Thanks in advance.
Things are improving. My husband started IOP, sort of like sobriety bootcamp. I attend one night a week for three hours of family night. I am trying to remain strong and grounded. Any tips on how to do this?
Thanks in advance.
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