ThinkZen

I am new here and am gobbling up everything on the site. Wish I would have found this years ago when married to an alcoholic. Our divorce was final in 2006 after being together for fifteen years. Now my kids, not me, have to deal with their dad's crappy behavior. I hate it that they were brought into this through no fault of their own, and suffer guilt for having left them with it. I stopped trying to control him years ago, and now that my kids are teens I let them decide for themselves how much they want to be around him. It amazes me that they stick up for him quite a bit and become angry with me if I point anything out. I am getting better at biting my lip. When they choose to be with him on a holiday, for example, I can't believe it! I say,"do you realize the time you are in for over there? Holidays are made for drinking in his mind." And they get mad AT ME!

Thank you in advance everyone.

ThinkZen

I think I posted this in the wrong forum and can't figure out how to delete it.