Tspark

Hello, people been a binge drinker for most of my adult life and struggled with controling my drinking. I have decided to go sober and all is going well. What im finding the most hard is dealing with my boredom. It feels like there is no fun in life without alcohol in my life. I didnt think I would feel this way

AAaaron

Good luck to you.
I am also a binge drinker.
There are lots of things to do now that you are not drinking.
Reading,oh sorry thats boring,little joke.....but ya,the world is open for you now.
When I first stopped drinking I had no idea how I was going to get through my weekends but I love my free time now.
You will find stuff to do.

YEM

For me, it felt like layers of an onion were being peeled away as more and more of my interests came back and I began to go do stuff and have fun. It's been my experience that I have more fun being clean/sober than I did while I was partying. Its also a huge bonus to be able to remember everything.

If you aren't trying to have some fun and be active, you will probably stay bored. Go for a walk or run or a swim or a hike, anything that gets you moving and out of the house and I wager you will be surprised at what there is to do now that you arent chained up and limited by booze.

artsoul

Welcome Tspark!

Congratulations on getting sober! I think we all go through that boredom phase. I know that over time, my drinking took the place of a lot of things I used to be interested in. When I stopped, I didn't have much to replace it with right away. Now I can't find enough time in the day to do what I want to do.....

Be patient with yourself - it's a process and it really does get better!

jkb

Hi Tspark..
I have no advice for you but, I can say that I too am a binge drinker and boredom is my biggest enemy. I am only on my 3rd day sober but, was glad to see I am not alone.

SparklingSeven

I felt the same at the beginning. It doesn't even cross ny mind now. It won't change overnight - just keep plugging away a day at a time but please do be confident that there IS light at the end of the tunnel!

You're on the right road - well done!

Stu.

Dee74

Hi and welcome Tspark

I know I underestimated the reliance I had on alcohol to 'bring me fun'... the things I did for fun as an active alcoholic - mostly sitting in front of the TV drinking - don't cut it for me sober.

what other changes have you made to your life besides just not drinking Tspark?

D

hypochondriac

Welcome to SR Tspark

I think that stage will pass. It's that 'right, now what?' moment. I love it in the book Living Sober when it talks about how we seem to suffer from a failure of the imagination when we give up drinking, even though we were invariably good and inventive at coming up with excuses to drink. There's a list in the book. I think there's one round here somewhere too, maybe in the stickies...? x

least

WElcome to the family! :ghug3 I used to wonder what I"d do if I weren't drinking, and how boring it would be, but have found I can do anything I want and do it better sober!