Getting through a wedding
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: UK
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Hi Blue
I 'did' a wedding at about 87 days.
A two night epic in Dublin.
The nominating myself as chief photographer worked well. I made sure I had my favourite camera and lots of batteries.
I don't think anyone appreciated my efforts as no-one said thank you for the pictures I took.
I also escaped to the loo a lot to read some texts and positive messages.
And no-one noticed when I went to bed early as they were having a whale of a time.
But it kept me off the juice!
I actually find weddings really boring but I found this one quite interesting.
The bride is really not my cup of tea at all. I was petrified that if I drank I might end up telling her that she was not my favourite person. The next day I never had to worry cos I did not drink and there was no drunken 'I hate you ' ramble.
But what I found really interesting was that people did not get throughly drunk. Drop down drunk.
Embrassingly drunk like I did.
I thought 'wow so this is what social events are like when your not blackout drunk. No-one is slumped virtually asleep like I used to do. No-one is staggering around, tripping up, wiping out tables of glasses and such as I used to do.
Yes some people had had a bit too much and were tipsey, but no-one had to be dragged off to bed early. However I did find those people incredibily boring and tedious - the ones who were a bit sloshed and repeating themselves.
What I would say is try it, it might open your eyes a bit and make you see your drinking was far from normal. Like it did me.
And relish the next morning when you can get up worry free and hangover free.
And I did not ruin the brides big day either!!!!
I 'did' a wedding at about 87 days.
A two night epic in Dublin.
The nominating myself as chief photographer worked well. I made sure I had my favourite camera and lots of batteries.
I don't think anyone appreciated my efforts as no-one said thank you for the pictures I took.
I also escaped to the loo a lot to read some texts and positive messages.
And no-one noticed when I went to bed early as they were having a whale of a time.
But it kept me off the juice!
I actually find weddings really boring but I found this one quite interesting.
The bride is really not my cup of tea at all. I was petrified that if I drank I might end up telling her that she was not my favourite person. The next day I never had to worry cos I did not drink and there was no drunken 'I hate you ' ramble.
But what I found really interesting was that people did not get throughly drunk. Drop down drunk.
Embrassingly drunk like I did.
I thought 'wow so this is what social events are like when your not blackout drunk. No-one is slumped virtually asleep like I used to do. No-one is staggering around, tripping up, wiping out tables of glasses and such as I used to do.
Yes some people had had a bit too much and were tipsey, but no-one had to be dragged off to bed early. However I did find those people incredibily boring and tedious - the ones who were a bit sloshed and repeating themselves.
What I would say is try it, it might open your eyes a bit and make you see your drinking was far from normal. Like it did me.
And relish the next morning when you can get up worry free and hangover free.
And I did not ruin the brides big day either!!!!
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Wales, UK
Posts: 78
I DID IT!!! I just got home... I'm not going to lie, it was really hard, all the free alcohol i would have had a field day only just over three weeks ago... it was so hard, but I just kept reminding myself how disappointed my therapist would be in me.. and how it wasn't worth it.. what i had to lose... i'm so glad it's over and i'm looking forward to a hangova free day tomorrow 
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Indianapolis, IN
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My tips are. Wake and pray. Ask yourself what you can bring to the occasion, instead of just worrying about not drinking. I would drive separate and allow yourself the pass to leave anytime you might feel uncomfortable.
When you're there tell yourself how grateful you are to be able to be there and be "present". Also, look for ways to be helpful at the wedding if the opportunity presents itself.
Best of luck@
When you're there tell yourself how grateful you are to be able to be there and be "present". Also, look for ways to be helpful at the wedding if the opportunity presents itself.
Best of luck@
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: California
Posts: 1,312
Congratulations!
Originally Posted by bluegem 
I DID IT!!! I just got home... I'm not going to lie, it was really hard, all the free alcohol i would have had a field day only just over three weeks ago... it was so hard, but I just kept reminding myself how disappointed my therapist would be in me.. and how it wasn't worth it.. what i had to lose... i'm so glad it's over and i'm looking forward to a hangova free day tomorrow
Treat yourself to some Ice Cream!
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Join Date: Aug 2012
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yeh it was such a lovely wedding... and i remember all of it ! and i didn't do anything stupid/embarrassing... no-one really noticed i wasn't drinking ... i took some alcohol free lager... it was a farm wedding so no problem in bringing your own drink...
so pleased it's out the way... onto the next challenge now i guess..!
so pleased it's out the way... onto the next challenge now i guess..!
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Ontario, Canada
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Hi,
I did my son's wedding in June just as I was making the decisions to get sober, and then went to one last weekend (it was open bar and a scotch lovers wet dream) - It was no one's business if I drank or not - any my family are heavy drinkers. I stuck to soda water with lime for the nights - and felt better the next day not having a hangover, no guilt, no remorse or shame. And I can honestly say I had a great time at both affairs.
I did my son's wedding in June just as I was making the decisions to get sober, and then went to one last weekend (it was open bar and a scotch lovers wet dream) - It was no one's business if I drank or not - any my family are heavy drinkers. I stuck to soda water with lime for the nights - and felt better the next day not having a hangover, no guilt, no remorse or shame. And I can honestly say I had a great time at both affairs.
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