Just be kind , that is why we here.
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Just be kind , that is why we here.
Howdy all, I have not posted a thread in a bit so I thought today was as good as any.
We must be careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as the institution . Experience shows that such an attitude is not helpful to anyone by any means. We as I are not fanatics or intolerant of people who can actually drink normally. Prospects are relieved when they find we are not witch burners but simply people that can not drink alcohol normally. Temperate drinking is so normal but we(I) can not do such . We can not get away with it.
And of course no alkie likes to be told about alcohol from someone that no longer likes it, So stick with some love, and know we shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.
Together we walk this beautiful journey.
And always Smile cause sobriety looks good on You. !!!!!!!!!!
Good love, Inda
all BB quotes First Ed.
We must be careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as the institution . Experience shows that such an attitude is not helpful to anyone by any means. We as I are not fanatics or intolerant of people who can actually drink normally. Prospects are relieved when they find we are not witch burners but simply people that can not drink alcohol normally. Temperate drinking is so normal but we(I) can not do such . We can not get away with it.
And of course no alkie likes to be told about alcohol from someone that no longer likes it, So stick with some love, and know we shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.
Together we walk this beautiful journey.
And always Smile cause sobriety looks good on You. !!!!!!!!!!
Good love, Inda
all BB quotes First Ed.
Last edited by Dee74; 07-10-2012 at 01:06 PM.
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All true advice, Inda!
Then again, especially in this forum, we also have to be tolerant of people who are struggling, depressed, angry because they can't drink or use like "normal" people, going through early-sobriety mood swings and attempting to be honest, even if it's angry or intolerant honesty.** So I do think it goes both ways.
** I identify with all of the aforementioned!
Of course there do have to be rules for polite discourse and limits, and the mods are pretty good at keeping this place civil and supportive.
Then again, especially in this forum, we also have to be tolerant of people who are struggling, depressed, angry because they can't drink or use like "normal" people, going through early-sobriety mood swings and attempting to be honest, even if it's angry or intolerant honesty.** So I do think it goes both ways.
** I identify with all of the aforementioned!
Of course there do have to be rules for polite discourse and limits, and the mods are pretty good at keeping this place civil and supportive.
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Well, I must say that I personally HATE alcohol because it has caused such tremendous pain in my life. But that's just me. I realize that it is prevalent in our society and it is enjoyed by many, many non-problem/non-alcoholic drinkers. I envy them, but my alcoholism is not their problem.
At the same time, I guess I also have to be grateful for my alcoholism because without it, I would not have learned so much about myself. God puts us exactly where we need to be at any given time, and without my addiction, I might not be the strong, insightful, self-assured person that I am now.
At the same time, I guess I also have to be grateful for my alcoholism because without it, I would not have learned so much about myself. God puts us exactly where we need to be at any given time, and without my addiction, I might not be the strong, insightful, self-assured person that I am now.
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I know I can not drink because when I do I do not know if I am going to get ****ed up locked up or covered up and that is for real. It has been over 7 years since I have had a drink or drug thank God. Logo
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I completely agree desertsong. I've tried to be very low key and quiet about my not drinking just for that reason. And my husband is a normal drinker so I just have to accept it. Some people can enjoy a drink, but not me.
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Inda,
Great post. I am surrounded by people who can drink alcohol and do so responsibly and in moderation. If I became a fanatic with anyone other than myself I would be single and have no friends. I have the problem, they don't. So I clink my diet coke against their wine glass when we toast to love and life.
Great post. I am surrounded by people who can drink alcohol and do so responsibly and in moderation. If I became a fanatic with anyone other than myself I would be single and have no friends. I have the problem, they don't. So I clink my diet coke against their wine glass when we toast to love and life.
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Gosh, to be completely honest, I love alcohol and would be drinking it if I could handle it. Since I know I can't handle it, I won't drink it. The problem is me. I feel happy for the people that can drink in a healthy way and enjoy its benefits. Meanwhile, there are many ways that people can suffer, and I applaud Inda's post, since what is really required in this world is love. I was thinking today that one of my besetting sins is judgement--of people, places, and things. When that judgmental voice creeps in to my head, as it did at the gas station just a few minutes ago, it evokes a whole lot of other negative emotions that, if fanned and fed, would lead me right back to the bottle. I can recognize it now and work hard on mentally walking away from it.
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Originally Posted by oinobares 
Gosh, to be completely honest, I love alcohol and would be drinking it if I could handle it. Since I know I can't handle it, I won't drink it. The problem is me. I feel happy for the people that can drink in a healthy way and enjoy its benefits. Meanwhile, there are many ways that people can suffer, and I applaud Inda's post, since what is really required in this world is love. I was thinking today that one of my besetting sins is judgement--of people, places, and things. When that judgmental voice creeps in to my head, as it did at the gas station just a few minutes ago, it evokes a whole lot of other negative emotions that, if fanned and fed, would lead me right back to the bottle. I can recognize it now and work hard on mentally walking away from it.
You (and Inda) are so right, really...learning not to get irritated and annoyed at completely irrelevant things in life, but to accept them, does help with sobriety and just general calmness.
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