LifeIsCake

Hello all,

I was wondering if anyone else had problems with alienating everyone in their life after they stopped drinking. I seem to be having a real issue with this problem.

Any advice would be great.

Thanks, J

eJoshua

I'm not sure. I think a lot of my old "friends" were alienated for sure. A lot of my relationships were constructed around drinking, so when the drinking disappeared so did the friends.

Dee74

I alienated a lot of friends who were also my drinking buddies - is that what you mean LIC?

Otherwise no - I actually reconnected with a lot of people after I got into recovery.

D

desertsong

Actually, I alienated people more when I was drinking. Now that I'm sober, I find myself reaching out more and wanting to be more sociable. Are the people you are alienating drinkers, or is it just people in general?

DryScotsman

I have cut a lot of people out of my life as I simply prefer the company of my immediate family and a few good friends these days.

stillsleeping

I figure anyone who was just a drinking buddy can stay just a drinking buddy - somewhere else. Anyone who is really a friend, we'll find a new way of connecting.

Hollyanne

I have a smaller, but higher quality circle of friends now.
It kind of evens out eventually.
At the beginning, I definately was way more into just AA people.
Now, have reconnected with old friends. Real ones.
Family too, can be difficult to deal with as one's emotions are all over the place.
It will work out.
Simplify, simplify, simplify.
Anne

Jitterbugg

Unfortunately, I alienated everyone while I was drunk so when I sobered up, there wasn't anyone left to alienate haha

stillsleeping

That's okay, Jitterbug. You can still alienate us :rotfxko

It's early over there - whatcha doin up?

x

sugarbear1

Ever consider AA just to meet other sober people?

Alkies tend to treat loneliness with isolation.....

You're going to be okay!