janieh123

i,m not doing as much this year I,m calmer and making better decisions about what i can do and not do that can make the difference between my serenity and just plain confusion mixed with anxiety which alot of these emotions come from fear and so today peace comes, Did you notice I got that all in one sentence?

janieh123

Is there anyone there?

Fenris

That sounds like a good plan. "Know thyself", they say. Personally, I'm kinda looking forward to the holidays -- see what I've been missing all these years.

Dominica2

Me as well. This will be my first Christmas/new years sober. Should be interesting.

janieh123

The last two Christmas, have been great and went well, its gets better every year, lower my expectations and just keep it simple, also finding out its not that hard when i,m just finding out that my children wern,t putting expectations on me but i was, it made it harder thinking i really had to out do myself to have a nice christmas, as you can tell still working on me those character defects that seem to try to be perfect, accepted, maybe a little people pleasing then guess what? I get a resentment, i,m currently working the 10th step, p 84- 86 BB

Impurrfect

I found out a lot of my anxiety comes from fear..not being perfect, not meeting the expectations I THINK my loved ones have. Life is much simpler when I do what I can, and let the rest go

Hugs and prayers,

Amy