Today is Tough
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Today is Tough
I'm not gonna lie, today is hard.
Certain people who have "driven me to drink" in the past have brought up the same emotions, and my first inclination in these situations is to go across the street, buy a twelve pack and forget about my problems.
I did go across the street, but instead I bought a pack of cigarettes - the lesser of two evils I guess.
I'm not going to drink today, but I'm just saying it's not easy.
Day 8.
Certain people who have "driven me to drink" in the past have brought up the same emotions, and my first inclination in these situations is to go across the street, buy a twelve pack and forget about my problems.
I did go across the street, but instead I bought a pack of cigarettes - the lesser of two evils I guess.
I'm not going to drink today, but I'm just saying it's not easy.
Day 8.
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awesome job...I have been having the same feelings and emotions (day six for me)....the physical craving is very tough, but lots of chocolate over here and Dr. Pepper...hang in there, we can do this!!!
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I'm sorry today was tough Stavros.
I had a few button pushers in my life too..
in the beginning all I could do was make a commitment not to drink - & smoke too in my case...I was *done* punishing myself and my body for what others might do.
By staying sober, a little later on I was able to work out positive ways to destress - relaxation, meditation, exercise etc - ways to stick to healthy boundaries, and ways to accept that, while I couldn't expect to change others behaviour, I could change my reactions to it.
It all took time, but I'm glad I put the work in
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I had a few button pushers in my life too..
in the beginning all I could do was make a commitment not to drink - & smoke too in my case...I was *done* punishing myself and my body for what others might do.
By staying sober, a little later on I was able to work out positive ways to destress - relaxation, meditation, exercise etc - ways to stick to healthy boundaries, and ways to accept that, while I couldn't expect to change others behaviour, I could change my reactions to it.
It all took time, but I'm glad I put the work in
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I find that I can't control other people or their emotions, anger and feelings but I can change how I think and react to them.
My daughter was always pushing my buttons but I think now that I'm not drinking she's not sure which buttons to push. Hehe. Don't let people 'think' they can aggravate you.
Sorry about having a bad day...we will have them.
My daughter was always pushing my buttons but I think now that I'm not drinking she's not sure which buttons to push. Hehe. Don't let people 'think' they can aggravate you.
Sorry about having a bad day...we will have them.
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Originally Posted by MycoolFitz 
Not easy but worth it and nobody has a license to drive you to drink. You control your emotions don't give them away to others. Good job on not picking up.
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Originally Posted by Newtosoberlivin
awesome job...I have been having the same feelings and emotions (day six for me)....the physical craving is very tough, but lots of chocolate over here and Dr. Pepper...hang in there, we can do this!!!
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I'm sorry today was tough Stavros.
I had a few button pushers in my life too..
in the beginning all I could do was make a commitment not to drink - & smoke too in my case...I was *done* punishing myself and my body for what others might do.
By staying sober, a little later on I was able to work out positive ways to destress - relaxation, meditation, exercise etc - ways to stick to healthy boundaries, and ways to accept that, while I couldn't expect to change others behaviour, I could change my reactions to it.
It all took time, but I'm glad I put the work in
D
I had a few button pushers in my life too..
in the beginning all I could do was make a commitment not to drink - & smoke too in my case...I was *done* punishing myself and my body for what others might do.
By staying sober, a little later on I was able to work out positive ways to destress - relaxation, meditation, exercise etc - ways to stick to healthy boundaries, and ways to accept that, while I couldn't expect to change others behaviour, I could change my reactions to it.
It all took time, but I'm glad I put the work in
D
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Originally Posted by EmeraldRose
I find that I can't control other people or their emotions, anger and feelings but I can change how I think and react to them.
My daughter was always pushing my buttons but I think now that I'm not drinking she's not sure which buttons to push. Hehe. Don't let people 'think' they can aggravate you.
Sorry about having a bad day...we will have them.
My daughter was always pushing my buttons but I think now that I'm not drinking she's not sure which buttons to push. Hehe. Don't let people 'think' they can aggravate you.
Sorry about having a bad day...we will have them.
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For me, if I tried to blame situations and people for my drinking and using......they ended up being the winners........and I the loser. I have learned from my own mistakes that only "I" can control the response I have to others and difficult situations. That was a big light-bulb for me, hopefully from now on I can stand tall and be proud of the fact that I won the battle.
Good luck......keep posting and stay strong !
Good luck......keep posting and stay strong !
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stavros...I met with my therapist today and discussed just this issue. The triggers caused by behaviors, feelings and situations. He drew a picture for me showing that I have established neural pathways in my brain (physically) that take me to that store across the street based on past responses to those triggers. By establishing new responses, you are paving new neural pathways, and letting the old roads decay in the process. Keep it up! All it takes is practice!
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Originally Posted by LoftyIdeals
stavros...I met with my therapist today and discussed just this issue. The triggers caused by behaviors, feelings and situations. He drew a picture for me showing that I have established neural pathways in my brain (physically) that take me to that store across the street based on past responses to those triggers. By establishing new responses, you are paving new neural pathways, and letting the old roads decay in the process. Keep it up! All it takes is practice!
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Originally Posted by stavros212
I'm not gonna lie, today is hard.
Certain people who have "driven me to drink" in the past have brought up the same emotions, and my first inclination in these situations is to go across the street, buy a twelve pack and forget about my problems. ...
I'm not going to drink today, but I'm just saying it's not easy.
Day 8.
Certain people who have "driven me to drink" in the past have brought up the same emotions, and my first inclination in these situations is to go across the street, buy a twelve pack and forget about my problems. ...
I'm not going to drink today, but I'm just saying it's not easy.
Day 8.
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Originally Posted by Charon
Glad you held on. One thing to think about when that urge comes - Do you really want to go through that 8 days again? Life ain't easy - but life plus early sobriety is even harder. The farther you get from the last drink the easier it gets and the worse it will be to go through early recovery again. There are lots of excuses to drink but no reasons.
And that's right - they are not reasons, only excuses.
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Originally Posted by stavros212
I'm not gonna lie, today is hard.
Certain people who have "driven me to drink" in the past have brought up the same emotions, .
Certain people who have "driven me to drink" in the past have brought up the same emotions, .
You have to remember, you cannot control what other people do or say. How you react is up to you. No one but ourselves makes us drink. Other people simply do not have that power over us, unless we give it to them.
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Originally Posted by GettingStronger2
Congrats on day 8 and not buying the beer!
You have to remember, you cannot control what other people do or say. How you react is up to you. No one but ourselves makes us drink. Other people simply do not have that power over us, unless we give it to them.
You have to remember, you cannot control what other people do or say. How you react is up to you. No one but ourselves makes us drink. Other people simply do not have that power over us, unless we give it to them.
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